Shhhhh, the Queen Sleeps

I am a pastor of marriages, of families. I dedicate myself to always preaching to the family. I was a youth pastor for 6 years. I know the problem of young people. Here I helped young people in my church for a year, so I also know problems about the kids who come here to the United States, sometimes without speaking the language very well. And I have always had a perception regarding the children of Latinos. There is a phenomenon in the United States and that is that every time American society is less congregational, less and less seek God, the churches in America are emptying, leaving only the buildings.

Think for a moment why you think God allows his children to come. What do you think God is thinking with young Latino Christians who are learning the language, who come to this culture, and who as Christians begin to function as towers, as evangelizers, as different people who bring blessings to this American society? That's why don't belittle the lives of your children.

As Paul told Timothy, no one should belittle your youth. But that's not the topic I'm going to talk about. The women are going to leave happy, they are going to say, oh, the pastor has to invite that man back, and the men are going to leave a little worried to say, at what time did I come here, my God. We are going to talk about marriage, we are going to talk about family.

For when one is going to talk about marriage, we have a reference source that does not fail, which is the Bible, and also God allowed himself to put in the Bible a book that talks about marriage relations, inclusive sexual relations, relationship between a man and a woman, is the book of Song of Songs, which was written by Solomon. So it is an allegory about the relationship between the Lord Jesus and his church, but it also talks about marriage.

So, I give you a brief description. I'm going to make an announcement. I am not going to preach the same thing in both services, so the sound guys can record this preaching, not on video, but on audio, and if you want to make it available to you later, it would be good, so that you have this first part and then the second part in the next service. Because I know that many women are going to say, oh, yes, I need it.

Let me describe a little bit what the Song of Songs is. It is written by the person who, after the Lord Jesus, is the wisest person who has set foot on this planet, who is the wisest of wise men, Solomon, he was very wise. Write this story that is like a classic soap opera, let's see if I can say what a soap opera is. A soap opera is a classic novel, like the Mexican ones, like the Venezuelan ones some time ago, I don't know if you watch soap operas, that is, The Wind Rose, The Leafless Flower, The Emerald I Don't Know Where, that is, you read the book of Song of Songs and it looks like a soap opera.

How are the soap operas, the novels, especially the Mexican ones? It is the story of the rich, wealthy, handsome, well-presented boy of good lineage who suddenly one day passes by and sees the maid, the servant girl, the girl who comes from a very poor family, who has no destiny and suddenly when their eyes meet they are eternally in love and there begins a whole plot to overcome all the impossibilities so that the two end up loving each other. That is a soap opera, which is not like Colombian soap operas because Colombian soap operas are very funny. Do you watch Colombian soap operas here or not? Don't tell me you didn't see Ugly Betty, Pedro the Scaly, Hasta que la plata nos parte, all those novels and I don't know if you ever saw a series of a guy, by Pablo Escobar who talked like that.

Well, Colombian soap operas are different, but Mexican, Venezuelan soap operas. I don't know if you saw Venezuelan soap operas one day, do you remember La ciega, Topacio. Those classic novels. You read the Song of Songs and it's a similar story. What is it? Solomon, the wisest man on planet earth, the richest man on planet earth, a man who one day goes to his carriage and suddenly sees a girl, a Shulamite. The Shulamite is the love story between Solomon and the Shulamite. Notice that she doesn't even have a name, her name is not Marta, Gloria, María, Teresa, no, they call her Sulamita, which is like saying, the Nicaraguan, the Honduran, the Salvadoran, the Ecuadorian, the Peruvian, she doesn't even have a name.

And then when they see each other, they remain eternally in love, it is that the Song of Songs is written, it does not even have a chronological order, that is, it is not a story that begins and ends. No, it is speaking on some occasions about one subject and then it goes on to another without warning us about anything, and it is also written in such a way that sometimes the Shulamite speaks, and sometimes Solomon speaks. So, she says one thing and he says another, and it's written like that, in a very poetic way.

But he also speaks openly and if you want to learn sexuality God's way, you have to read the Book of Song of Songs. When I give seminars on marriage, there is a talk about sexuality and we look at what is allowed, what should be done, what should not be done, what God thinks, that is, there we find the manual par excellence about what It must be a marriage in all aspects.

Also, look at this, this man reminds you that he had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Let's see, I ask him if a wise, wise, wise man, the wisest of the wise with 1000 wives writes a book on sexuality, I read it. Yes or no? He knows why, because he did know. I read it. He also had to be very wise because to put up with a thousand wives. If you and I with one and sometimes we don't know what to do, sometimes we say which abandoned road I throw it on. Where do I leave it? With one and we need wisdom, imagine that poor man with a thousand! He also had to be very wise because he not only had a thousand wives, he had a thousand mothers-in-law. He had to be wise, very, very wise.

And then he with wisdom writes the book of Song of Songs. You open your Bible to the Song of Songs. Here I have the New International Version. Suddenly if you have an electronic device you look for the new international version, do they put it on the screen? They can put the New International Version on the screen.

Look how the book of Song of Songs begins. He says, the beloved - that is, the one who is speaking is the woman, says, "Oh, if you kissed me with the kisses of your mouth, pleasing indeed is your love, more than wine, pleasing is also your perfumes fragrance, you yourself are fragrant balm, the maidens love you with reason, make me completely yours, hurry up, take me, oh king to your bedroom. It begins so.

And the one who is speaking is a woman. “Let us rejoice and delight together, let us celebrate your caresses more than wine. – and here I found the first sentence that made me stop and find an optimal point in the marriage relationship. – There are plenty of reasons to love you.”

Listen, it's a woman who says of her lover, there are plenty of reasons to love you. Wow, doesn't that sound romantic. Do you know what I think? It seems to me an optimal point, it seems to me a challenge for one to be able to reach that position as a husband, as a husband, as a father, as a producer, as a leader, as a cover for a home, that his wife ends up thinking things like these.

You know one thing, my love, there are plenty of reasons to love you. I could see you in any of the things you do and you are superior to everyone. Wow! God made you and broke the mold. You are all mine, you are unique, you are great, wow! Well, I don't know, it makes me a double challenge. First, that the woman has to admire her husband for what he is, but he challenges me as a man, that I have to make my wife admire me, that I have to be worthy of admiration.

Gentlemen, I don't know if you have ever heard things like this and I constantly hear them in counseling. Women after several years of marriage saying, Pastor, I don't know when I stopped loving him. Have you heard things like that? I don't know when I stopped loving him. I usually tell them, look, I know when a woman stops loving a man, when the woman stops admiring him. Because the woman loves what she admires, admires what she loves.

In other words, what does a woman do to be able to love a man, she begins by admiring him, she begins by feeling that he is different from the others. Men are not defined by physical appearance, man is not defined by beauty, many are happy with me, thank God, Lord, they agree with me as... do you think my wife is with me because of the physical? No. because the woman sees other characteristics in the man, she sees that he is responsible, hardworking, a leader, that he speaks well, that he is educated, that she admires him for his knowledge, for his ability to do things. The virtues and characteristics of a man make the woman fall in love with him.

That is why when you are irresponsible, you are not a leader at home, you are not a good father, you do not behave like a man, well, I don't know... imagine, me without certain characteristics that my wife admires, because of my physical appearance I had no hope, I would have died a virgin.

But hear me out ladies, you define yourself by the physical. We are going to talk about that, I don't know if we will reach it in this talk or in the next one, but the woman is definable by the physical. Yesterday we were talking about something and we said, a woman needs to feel beautiful and she needs to feel desired and attracted to her husband. That is very important for a woman, that she feel beautiful, that the years go by and he still admires her beauty. For a woman it is important to be beautiful. Spot. If the woman feels beautiful, she will be safe walking the path of life. believe me. Are women smart? Yes, a lot, but a woman doesn't want to appear intelligent to attract attention, more than to appear beautiful and to be beautiful, because she defines herself by the physical.

Yesterday we were talking, when you meet two women, what do you do? Oh hello, how cute. The first thing you look for is something beautiful in that woman, isn't it? Oh, how cute is the bag, the bow, the hair, how pretty, pretty, pretty. Why, when women greet each other, do they call each other cute? Because this woman knows what the other woman needs. What do you need? Let them tell her that she is beautiful. A woman invests thousands of dollars in liposuction, in fillers, it is put here, it is removed here. They don't buy a single book, an encyclopedia, no, not that, because if the women wanted to attract simple attention, they put an [inaudible] under their arm and walk past the men so that everyone says, wow, look what intelligent that woman who goes there. No.

What does the woman invest her money in? She invests her money in getting highlights in her hair, in getting a haircut here, in going to the spa, in painting her nails, in putting on the necklace, making her look beautiful because she needs to feel beautiful. Ah, they are intelligent, intuitive, yes, they have so many virtues but the other virtues seem to go to the next level because what she needs is to be beautiful. Men don't. I mean, a man… I, to make the pastor feel comfortable or have a conversation, or I want, for example, to give him a qualifier, I tell him, “Pastor, you are very intelligent. Pastor, you preach well, you know a lot." I can't get to say, "hey, what a nice tie you have."

If I meet your pastor and say, "hey, how handsome you are." The pastor says, this brother should not be invited here anymore. Worries. He says, hey, men don't... we feel uncomfortable when someone describes our physique, even our mother after adolescence a man doesn't want his mother to go around saying, what a cute boy...

So how are we valued? We are valued for virtues and abilities. Have capabilities, be responsible, be an intelligent man. Man is defined by three fundamental things. These are questions that a man has to solve in his life. Who is it? What are you doing? How much earn? That is important to us. The who is, what does the who is give us? Ah, I present to you the pastor, his function as a pastor defines him; to the lawyer, to the dentist, to the engineer. Ricardo, the engineer. Gabriel, the dentist. We define ourselves by the title we carry.

Listen to a mother, a mother speaks, my son is an engineer. My son is a scientist. My son is a pastor, prophet, future archangel, because moms will always want me to... brag with their children. And to us that is important, who I am. I am a comedian. What are you doing? Or me, I do world records, TV shows and I do comedy. What I do? That defines me. How much earn? Because how much I earn means how much I can give to my family. There are things that are tied to how much I earn, which means that I can fulfill my role as provider for a family, as guardian of a house, as the one who pays for the children's university, as the one who provides all things for their wife is beautiful, comfortable, to ensure her future. Those are important things.

Look at this, says the word of God, God made man in his image and likeness and put him in the garden. It is that the word of God does this, it says God made man and put him... that is, he put him to do things. God makes man, puts him in the garden to work it and take care of it. Ladies, Adam was alone, Eve had not yet arrived on this planet, she was not here. And Adam was already working, that is, he was doing, working, working, earning and defining himself. He put it in the garden to till it. What was it? Farmer and take care of it, what was it? Defender of a place that was preparing for what God would bring.

Eva was not there and Adam already earned, worked, had a degree and worked, that is why that defines us. When you meet a man who doesn't provide for his home, who doesn't take care of his children and his wife, who doesn't take care of Eden, you say things like this, hey, behave like a man! That one does not behave like a man, because men work, work, care and provide. Those functions that we have to be doing all the time.

Let's see, here to talk a little to women. Say it but what do you feel when you get home with your salary, and you do this, how do you get in? You do not go in defeated, you have just received the fruit of your effort and you go home proud and you get that check. He can't get the check... that is, you see him for the last time. In my house I am not José Ordoñez, in my house I have many last names, José eggs, José milk, José the mortgage, José the rent, how many last names do I have there?

But when I get home and I do this, believe me, I come from a trip and I bring what they paid me for my show, that the DVDs were sold outside, they'll be on the table outside if you want to buy them. So, all that money I can't see anything, I arrive and say, take it. And you know one thing, my wife takes it and I am left with happiness, I feel so happy that when I see my son with the new sneakers, I feel happiness, when I see that my wife arrives with her truck full of groceries, wow, I stand at the door... because I fulfilled the function for which God designed me.

Of course, I also have my little heart. I tell my wife that she is beautiful and the truth is that she is very beautiful, but I also have my little heart and how I like it when my wife tells me, “you are unique, there are no 2 like you. Thank you for bringing the money. You know, I love knowing that in 27 years of marriage in this house you have covered all my needs. I admire you. I love you." That is what the Shulammite here is doing who says, "There are plenty of reasons to love you."

The first question I want to ask you this morning, dear women, is how many times do you value what your husband does for you? How many times, gentlemen, do you make yourself worthy of that, you comply because you comply because you comply? And he wins the admiration of his wife. Also, if you don't value it, if you don't ponder it, who do you expect to value it? What you do not say another will come to say it. What you do not value, there are people ready to value.

I was in Oklahoma about 6 months ago. It made me sad to hear a man tell me after this preaching, pastor, it is sad for me but for many years I wanted to have a promotion. My wife always asked me about a promotion at work, and the day I got my promotion, I came home and told her, "Honey, I got the promotion," and she replied, "About time."

That degrades the man. That minimizes it. Ladies, you have the ability to build but to destroy a man. You can do what it cost a mother 25 years, you can damage it in 25 minutes, with what you say, with what you do. We need women who learn to value their husbands, just as we need husbands who make themselves worthy of that value.

Look at this, I was born into a very poor home. Those who have seen the video of I did not ask to be born, and saw the show, I have told my testimony. A very poor man, a man who was also born in a very poor family with 5 other brothers and who was also disdained by my family. In other words, it was difficult to have me as a son because I was born hyperactive, with unusual mental capacity. I mean, something happened and I immediately turned it into a comedy with a speed…. I built things, I did, I missed nothing, I've had that issue since I was born. I hated my talent for many years because it got me into so much trouble.

When a visit came to the house they had to hide me because I always messed up. If the lady came and the lady said and... then I was always there... And then when I started in comedy, I admit that I hurt many people. That's what comedians are, I mean, I don't know if you've noticed that a comedian…never fall on the lips of a comedian, please, because a comedian can grab the same president of a country and tear him to pieces. Comedians are allowed to say things that would sound ugly from other people's mouths.

And so I grew up being scorned. You are useless. You are the shame of this family. Your mom shouldn't have given birth to you. You are a problem, what am I paying to have a son like you? And we grew up in a society where grades in school were what denoted who was good and who was bad. I mean, good kids got good grades, bad kids don't get good grades like you, you're mediocre. And I admit, I was the one who was always in the back at school. I didn't do anything well in school. The only thing I learned to do well at school was my dad's signature.

And I was always behind because the teacher explained in 5 minutes and 5 minutes were enough for me to understand what the lady was saying. The other 40 minutes of the class I did not need to be repeating, repeating and explaining, I had already understood, 40 free minutes to give nicknames, nicknames, mock, do, imitate, I was always back there, so I admit that I was bad... I was not interested in studying. I was a student like that, these were my grades, scratching, scratching, scratching. Lost, lost, scraping. He's going to lose. Accelerated, passed.

When they already said, you are going to lose the year, I accelerated at the end of the year, I studied, I took the grades, for outside. Ready. Following. So, this goes to the parents, never tell a child that they are useless. It's not that your son is good for nothing, it's that your son isn't good for everything. They told me that I was a nobody and that I was useless, just because I didn't have good grades. And I am going to tell you with knowledge of the facts, never tell a son that he is useless, lest you be mistreating the man who is going to bless your old age.

The Bible is a manual, the Bible shows you families everywhere, and I don't know if you have noticed that in the Bible there is always a son who is educated, judicious, who studies, has the best grades, and another who is a such a rare thing, isn't it? Jacob and Esau, Esau would go out, hunt... Jacob in the house under his mom. You see the story of the prodigal son. A son who always did the right thing and a son... I need the money, I'm leaving... relaxed. And the other one, who was perfect, was so perfect that when his brother came he couldn't fit... I've never disobeyed you, I've never eaten the fatted calf.

I don't know if you realize that in the Bible there is always the rigid and the relaxed psycho. I have one at home, he is about to graduate from Bayola University in Los Angeles, he was invited to study at Harvard. His quota arrived, he said... he's a guy... And I have another to tell you... I tell him, "Andrés, the world is going to fall," he moves to one side. You are identifying yourself, aren't you?

Okay, but hear me out on this. I was the victim of feeling like a nobody because it didn't work where my brothers worked. And then I have learned as a father that I have to shepherd my son, because children are educated but they are shepherded, they are corrected but they are shepherded. So, I have had to tell my son, "Hey, Andrés, it may be that your brother is superior when it comes to studying, but that only makes him superior in that area of life because you have other areas of life where you are far superior to him. A better grade does not make you more my son. ”

“The note does not say that I have to love you less. You are worth for what you are worth, for the talent that God has placed in you. Ah, you have to study me and you have to make the effort to get the best grades. Make the effort. But don't think that you become more my son when you bring me the best grades. You are my son and I love you. Enough. Spot. I love you."

So, I grew up believing that I was a nobody. Because? Because he had a talent that got everyone in trouble and because he wasn't the one who got the good grades. So, I was always told, "You are useless." And I was a boy who believed for many years that he was useless. I was a street vendor, I did not finish my studies, until I was 21 years old and I – and this is inexplicable, the doctors have already given her a diagnosis that is retarded growth – I met my wife at the age of 21 and since she I know my wife and I give her my word that this is the case, I have grown 5 cm more. I was tiny, skinny, skinny, insignificant, that is, the Colombians who are here know that I invented a character named Pablo Remalas because nothing good happens to him, he is very bad, bad. He set up an ice factory and it caught fire.

Hey, one thing, they have to go there on YouTube and look for Mundo José Ordoñez and there are all the characters. I invented Pablo Remalas because of that area of my life, that chapter of my life where I thought I was useless. When I meet Jazmine I have always been a dreamer and I tell my wife about dreams.

I have accumulated 21 years here of people who have told me, "You are useless, you cannot, who are you?" I was so insignificant that the day I married my wife my family did not come to the wedding. I have 5 brothers and 5 half brothers and I have a father and a mother. But the day I got married, a sister came, my father wasn't there, my mother wasn't there, my brothers weren't there, because he was such an insignificant guy that he doesn't even deserve to go to his wedding.

I marry my doll, with my wife, and I tell her my dreams and when I tell her my dreams, it's because I didn't come to put my dad or my mom on the gallows, no. I was a bad son, a bad student, but apart from that, what would you feel if you ask your 9, 12, or 13-year-old son and say, "What do you want to be in life?" and he tells you that he wants to be a joke teller. People are afraid of weird people, but beware that weird people are the ones who change the world, people who dare to think differently, believe differently and undertake differently, those change the world.

Steve Jobs said, "People don't know what they want until you give it to them." So it was complicated. The funny one, the one who is going to dedicate himself to making jokes. And it's true, we comedians are empirical, that is, we don't have a university, there isn't a university for comedians. I'm not here to say, hello, good morning, I'm a comedian, graduated from Hahaha Harvard University. There is no Hahaha Harvard. So, I can kind of understand, but listen to me, no one came to my marriage.

When I tell my wife about my dreams, my wife tells me, "And you are going to achieve it because you are unique in the world." The word of God says, "he who finds a woman finds a good thing." I mean, I married my wife and immediately found the number 1 ally of my life. Be careful with this, that when my wife talks about me, she is talking about the person on planet earth who has the most power, the most authority to bless me, because I am one with no other person. I am not one with my father, I am not one with my mother, nor with my brothers, nor with my friends, nor with my compadre, nor with my comadre, I am one with Jazmine. What she says has an importance and relevance in my life like no other person.

Did you understand, dear woman, what it means when you open your mouth to bless your husband, to speak well of him? You are unique, that's what he called me from the first day I told him my dreams. I made a record in Spain, I made 80 hours of jokes for the Guinness Records book in Madrid. Before making the record, I send the application to the Guinness book and the Guinness book responds and says, "Mr. Ordoñez, please fill out this application so that you can make that attempt to break that record for the Guinness book .” I finished filling it out and at the bottom after the signature it said, “welcome to the book of the unique people in the world.”

The question is, who said it 23 years before? When my wife speaks, she blesses me like no other person or destroys me like no other person. Learn to speak well of your husband. But he doesn't have anything good, the best thing he has is a second degree cousin, no more. Ponder him the cousin in the second degree, bless him. There must be something good. Also don't be offended yourself, because who chose it? Sometimes I tell them, and who chose it? It is that my husband is a drunk, that he is a womanizer. Who chose it? Where did you meet him? In a disco. He was my best friend's boyfriend. And now you've come to complain because he's an alcoholic and a womanizer, haven't you noticed?

Once we were on a cruise for weddings, the singer Marcos Barrientos was going, Cash Luna and José Ordoñez were going, we were going in a separate van, Marcos was in the front, Cash was in the middle, and here I was with my wife. So, Cash says with a joke, "It would be a disaster if Marcos made jokes, I sang and Ordoñez preached." I mean, he changed roles to make a joke. And that didn't sit well with my wife. And luckily we were in the back and she nudged me, the classic nudge of an injured woman. And my wife tells me, "If he knew that you do those three things better than them." Wow!

It may be that I don't sing like Marcos Barrientos, it may be that I don't preach like Cash Luna, in humor they are mere mortals, that's not important here. Do you know what is important here? It is the concept that my wife has of me, that she believes that I preach like the best, I sing like the best, and she can join what the Shulamite says, there are plenty of reasons to love you.

I start to finish. I need to go to the next verse, this ability that I have to speak, my God... if you can stay for the second, cool, if you don't invite and if not later you get the audio of the second.

Says the beloved, “I am dark but beautiful, daughters of Jerusalem; brown as the tents of the Cedar, beautiful as the pavilions of Salmá. Do not look at my dark complexion or that the sun tanned my skin, my brothers got angry with me and forced me to take care of the vineyards and I neglected my own vineyard..."

She tells a story. She says, I'm a brunette, she begins to describe herself. I am a brunette, but beautiful. Be careful with this, when you say something and then put a but it means that what you just said is not entirely true or there is some doubt. I mean, I'm dark, but beautiful. In other words, she is saying that she is not beautiful at all, that she would like to feel beautiful but that she knows that she is not beautiful, but that she would like to be seen as beautiful. Because where are women defined? For her physique, for her beauty.

So, she says, I'm dark, but beautiful. Brown like Cedar carp – Cedar carp were not brown, they were black. At that time people with brown skin, black skin, were considered to be of a lesser breed. In other words, with a lower status. Then she says, I'm dark but beautiful. I mean, I want to feel beautiful. And he begins to tell a story, the story of his life, do you know why, gentlemen? Because when women reach our arms they bring a story to tell.

She says, I want to tell you why I'm dark, because my brothers got angry with me and they put me to work under the sun, she says in another version, and the sun tanned my skin. I mean, I got brown from working so hard and my brothers enslave me, I have to work for my brothers and I don't even have the chance to work for myself. I mean, I don't have money, I don't have a future, I have some brothers who enslave me. Ask yourself why some brothers enslaved their sister. The first question that comes to me is, and where were the parents? Either we have parents who allow men to mistreat women or we have a woman who is an orphan, whatever the case may be, she works from sunrise to sunset. She is rude. Imagine a woman who is tilling the land all the time and says – there is a part of that inheritance that belongs to me but I don't have time to work it because I have to work for them. They exploit me at work and I have no life.

That counts, I would like to feel beautiful but I am mistreated by my brothers. He tells it and why he tells it. I come back and tell you, gentlemen, when your wife came into your life, at 23, at 18, at 25, she brought a family history, she brought a way, a culture. We live in a country where many times we get married between cultures. You cannot ignore the culture where it comes from, the family it comes from, the cultural context, the socio-economic context, you cannot ignore any factor of your partner when he comes to live with you because that immediately has an impact on how you are going to live with that person. person, how we Colombians, Dominicans, Salvadorans, Peruvians, Bolivians think. It comes with a way how we were born, how we grew up, how we were educated, what dad and what mom said. That came there.

And you know one thing, you can't say, ah, I'm going to take the part that interests me about my wife, but not the other. Do you remember what we talked about yesterday? No. You married your problems, you also married your traumas, you married your mistakes. Your wife's mistakes are your mistakes. What hurts her has to hurt you. What in her life is not resolved you have to solve. That part where he is not doing very well, you have to solve it. You are the man, you are the head of the home, you are here to solve your wife's problem.

Because what does Solomon do immediately? He tells her, verse 8, “If you don't know, beautiful among the beautiful” – and he had a thousand, but he said, hey, you don't know, beautiful among the beautiful.” What does a wise man do? Where she is weak I make her strong, where she is doing badly I strengthen her. The mistreatment she suffered in her childhood by her father who never took care of her, the little educational structure she has, the part of her training, love, “where you are weak because you have just found the answer to your problems. I am the answers to your questions, I am the calm for your afflictions, I am the solution to your life. Your life is life since my eyes saw your eyes.

So, the man in an argument, do you know what he does? We have this trend. Where she is weak, we bring out her weakness, put it out in public and expose it. What do you know if you never had, if your mom is the same as you. You take out all that hurts her, where she has an unresolved life, and you only use it to rub it in her face in an argument. Where she is weak you bare her. You expose her mistakes, when you should cover her because we men cover. Where you are weak I make you strong, my love.

In a discussion we do this, what do you know, you are gross. You don't know, you are stupid. OK. Let's say it's gross, let's play it's gross. And who has to solve the problem? It is assumed that she married you and that you, being the leader of your house, are there to protect her, to bless her and to take care of her, where she is weak you have to make her strong. Never tell your wife that she is stupid if you are not willing, immediately, to go to a university and enroll her to study.

How many years of education does your wife have left? Let's ask ourselves there, how many years do you lack of education? How many times in your marriage do you hear things like this, where your wife says, "I could have done it, I could have been it, I could have done it"?

He knows how our women grow old, speaking of frustrations, of unfinished, unresolved things, and the man allows himself to take a woman to that state in old age. My wife married me when you were 18, I paid for her college. He is currently studying English and is thinking about starting his next career, because I want my wife to never say, “I could have been,” no, you are when we are old. Love, thank you for making my dream possible. I am the maker of my wife's dreams. I am.

Gentlemen, marriage is daily. That is the problem we have, that marriage is daily. Never think of a marriage of 30, of 35, think of today. Marriage is lived day by day. Today you are going to get up and all the questions that your wife has, you are going to solve them. And if she woke up today with an affliction you have to solve it. If there is something that bothers him, it is your problem, solve it.

Because Solomon said, how ugly. Beautiful, among the beautiful. And in the following preaching we are going to see what he did so that this woman ended up being one of the happiest women in the Bible. A story that began in the midst of hardship, pain and affliction, and ended in the right way. For now I leave all this for your reflection.

Get on your feet and let's pray. If you have your doll next to you, hug her, hug your doll, hug your doll. Let's say a prayer, Lord, we need you to do something today for the family, for the home, for the wives, for the husbands. We need you to act appropriately in the family that is represented here. And we want to ask forgiveness for all the times that we as men, that they as women, Lord, have failed and we raise our faces to you to tell you to do your wonderful work. José Ordoñez's life only changed the day he gave his heart to Jesus.

SECOND PART

I am going to make a small summary of what we said in the first service. We were talking about the book of Song of Songs, which is the compendium that God allowed, I don't know how compendium will be translated. Poor whoever is translating, my God, give him wisdom because translating José Ordoñez is not easy, I speak fast and outside of that I speak in terms of comedy and cultural things that when doing the translation that is not... so I make them suffer. To the people who speak English here, by all means enjoy seeing others laugh.

So, I was saying that the Song of Songs was written by Solomon, who is the person after the Lord Jesus, the wisest person who has set foot on this planet. He is the sage of the sages. Apart from that, he is a rich, powerful man and the story is told in the Song of Songs of how he falls in love with the Shulamite, who is a woman who tells a heartbreaking, hard story, she says when she begins to describe herself:

“I am dark-skinned, but beautiful…” In other words, she did not feel beautiful, but rather she said dark-skinned but… but, but, and we were talking about the importance of the fact that women are defined by their physiques, women are definable by their physiques. Tell me how beautiful a woman feels and I'll tell you how confident she is. In other words, if she feels beautiful, she feels safe. If a woman feels unattractive, she feels ugly, she will always be insecure, she will feel like she has no place in places of pre-eminence, in a suitable place. The woman was born to feel beautiful.

I'm going to give you an example. I have 4 children, 2 girls, one is already married, she is 26 years old and the other is 14 years old. Girls have always done this and I want men to help me see if it doesn't happen to them the same way. When girls are little, 6 years old, 4 years old, 5, 9, I don't know, they always put on the best clothes, my daughters, they put on their little tails, their braids, they put on lip gloss, beautiful and guess what, then to get beautiful, guess who was the first they were going to look for. It happens to them, right? And they were looking for me and this is what the girls do, they look for their father and ask, "Dad, how am I?" What does a father do? "Bella, you are beautiful." Have you ever wondered why girls do that?

Nobody teaches them. But my daughters did what your daughters do, because they need to know that they are beautiful from a young age. Nobody taught her, she needs the voice of a man to tell her that she is beautiful, because if she feels beautiful, she feels safe. Not a child. little boys don't do that, well, at least not a normal child.

I think you would be concerned if your 7-year-old son came up to you and said, "Daddy, how am I?" You say, see, I was the black sheep of the family and this turned out to be the pink sheep. You worry if a child is too worried, half daffodil, worried about his beauty, because to men, as we talked about in the first service, beauty is not important to us. It's part, like saying, for a woman it's important to be intelligent but it's not the most important thing. A woman will not want to appear more intelligent than beautiful, she will always want to be beautiful and intelligent. But beautiful, beautiful, for these her great expenses in the life of a woman are the bag, the shoes, the highlights of the hair, the earring, the perfume, the necklace. That is part of the femininity to feel that she is being valued. Since they were little girls, they need a voice, listen to me, the voice of a man who says, you're beautiful.

Unfortunately in our Latin American countries, I don't know how it is here in the United States, what the American father is like, but unfortunately in our countries we come from a race, from a generation where parents assumed that if they were tender with their children, then they were weak. And they never told their children… I was 6 years old when I came here and I kissed my dad on the cheek for his birthday and he said, “Don't kiss me, men don't kiss.” I don't blame my dad because in turn my grandfather said that to my dad. So many times if a man caresses his daughter, plays with her, sometimes he feels that he is being too sweet and he is being weak.

So, how many women grew up without hearing their father's voice telling them that they were beautiful, that they were beautiful. And it is miserable to grow up in a family like this and then marry a man who continues in the same vein, who has not understood that the woman was born to be loved and admired for her physique.

When you touch or speak about your wife's physique, you are touching the most soulful and sensitive part of a woman. Never make jokes about your wife's body. Sin had not entered the human race, and it says that Adam and Eve were naked and felt no shame. That means that God designed the physique of the husband and wife to admire each other and understand the logical process of aging while still admiring each other. Never laugh at your wife's buttocks, at her breasts, at her little wrinkles, at her white hair, at the varicose vein that is coming out. Never tell him that it is that he has the installation on the outside. Don't mock. If you are going to make a funny comment, learn to make funny comments that build, not destroy, because it is a violation to speak ill of a woman's body and then want to be with her. Women need to feel beautiful.

The women here are going to say, "Invite him back, pastor, that guy..." Look, I'm going to give you this verse that the women are going to run to take aim with unusual speed. Malachi chapter 2, verses from 13 to 16. Write it down, keep it there as a relic, if you want you can have it amplified at home, I'm not going to read it to you but if you want you can read it. I'm going to tell you, because I need to paraphrase it, I need to put it within the current cultural context.

God says, God is the one who is speaking, "Another thing that you do is flood my altar with tears, you come, weep, you bring me your tithes and then you come and ask me, Lord, why don't you hear us, why don't you hear us?" Why don't you answer us, Lord? They ask me why I don't hear them? Because I am a witness to the way you treat your wives and until you learn to treat your wives well I do not hear you."

Read it there it is. I do not receive your offering with pleasure, I do not listen to your prayers, do not come to tell me, I come to you, Lord, because I do not hear, because with that same little face of a holy mamo that you come to put on me here in church on Sundays, with that The same voice with which you sing to me, you use that same voice to yell at your wife on Tuesday. I heard when you spoke badly to her on Wednesday, on Thursday morning I realized how you treated her, and as long as you do not resolve this matter, and as the word of God says, I stopped covering her garments of violence, until you learn to treat your wife you and I do not talk. How did you see her?

That's why I get upset when there are people in society who say that the Bible is a sexist book. You say, that's Malachi, that's the Old Testament. No, let's go to the New Testament, the Apostle Peter, who was the most sanguine Apostle of the 12 that the Lord had. Sanguineous because he was an explosive, violent type. That was the one that lowered Malco's ear, remember? Yes. Now, it was that Malco crouched down, Pedro was not going to lower his ear, what happened is that Malco had reflexes, when he saw the machete coming, he did... and lowered his ear, but Pedro went for the head. That same Apostle who does things like that ends up in one of his letters, says the Apostle Peter, “treat your women as a more fragile vessel, give honor to your dolls, to your wives so that your prayers do not have hindrance before God .”

Isn't that the same as what Malachi says? Is the same. The Apostle says, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, he says, "when you yell at your wife, when you do not treat her as a fragile vessel, all the prayers you make, all the requests you make, are hindered, heaven will close for you." I just told you why many of you don't get the raise you're asking for, you don't get the contract you're looking for, they haven't given you all that work you've been waiting for, you haven't been cured of the disease you're you live crying out to God. All those prayers that you go around asking God, God does not listen to them because I hear the scream you gave your wife louder.

Did you see what I told you that the women were going out, yes, yes? And some came alone and they are saying, "Oh, he didn't come, he didn't come." Simple, later you get the CDs of the preaching, where it says José Ordoñez, delete José Ordoñez there, and put on Paquita the one from the neighborhood and give it to her husband. But I need to resume.

What did I say in the first part? The Shulamite begins to tell a story about her life. She was a woman who does not even have a proper name in the Bible for her. She was the Shulamite, she was from Sulam. In other words, she tells this story, I am a brunette, that is, I feel... at that time, women with dark complexions were considered low class, so she says, I am a brunette but beautiful, but pretty. I mean, like, meaning, I need to feel beautiful.

And we were speaking in that context when we found what the Shulamite herself was saying in the Song of Songs, chapter 1, verse 8, Solomon replied. What does Solomon reply? Solomon says, when he hears her say, I'm not that pretty... and another thing, she says, do you know why I'm dark? Because I have been mistreated, abused by my brothers for many years. My brothers enslave me. They got mad at me and put me to work for them and I don't even have my money, nor can I work for myself, and so I'm neglected. She calls herself careless. I have neglected my own vineyard.

So imagine a woman who is working in the sun, her skin has been tanned by the sun and she is mistreated by her brothers, poor, in rags, and suddenly Solomon passes by, the most powerful man on the planet at that time, the richest man in the world. has existed and the wisest man after the Lord Jesus who has set foot on this planet. And he sees her, their eyes meet, they fall in love and do you know what Solomon does? He does what wise men do, here we conclude our first preaching. What does a wise man do? A wise man is not unaware of his wife's weaknesses, he must necessarily learn what her weaknesses are.

When you married your wife, there is a part that you loved, that you like. She has the part where she's fabulous, where no one seems to top her. I don't know, all women have that wonderful charm and one or another little detail, difficulty, mistake, defect, little, little. There is an area of your wife that you do not like, with which you feel uncomfortable. It came there, you would have wanted to do this, take only the good part and reject the bad part, but you can't. She is all, all, for you, in the bad and in the good, that's why here when you come to get married we shepherds tell you, do you accept her in the good and in the bad, in health and in sickness, in rich and poor? Your answer was not, yes, no, yes, no, yes, no. no man answers like that. How did you answer? What did you say? Yes, and that did include yes, the part that I don't like about you I also accept, it's also mine. Your problematic part, the trauma you bring from your childhood is mine. I take your load, dear, sister, friend, lover of mine, your part where you are not good is mine. I have to solve where you are weak I am strong, because wise men do this, they realize it and immediately work to solve their wife's problems.

What does modern man do? Where she is weak makes her weaker. For example, her father always said that she was ugly, that she was rude. We Latinos grow up listening to stupid things, pardon the expression, from our parents, because they in turn received that education. You are useless, get out of here. I don't expect anything from you, you're an idiot, you're just like your mom. Who knows how many things and how many traumas have spilled over into the life of your wife or your husband. And what does modern man do? Where she is weak makes her weaker. Where she is weak that is her favorite tool of argument and fight. She repeats what her father repeated to her, what her brothers, as in the case of the Shulamite, did to her. Instead of us being a source where they can heal their wounds, build themselves as people, develop as people.

A man should live with a woman making her understand this. I am the answer to your questions. In me you find refuge, calm, development, prosperity. What does Solomon do? She says, I am poor and ugly and what does Solomon say? Verse 8:

"If you don't know, beautiful among the beautiful" - and he had a thousand in the palace, but he said beautiful among the beautiful, where you are weak I strengthen you." Wow. I think you know the wife's weak area, right? Why don't you cover her, why don't you bless her. You cannot tell your wife, I love you but without the habit and without that mania and I love you but I don't pass it to your mother, but not to your brother, but to your family, but your customs ... no, no, no, when a man tells a woman that he loves her but... that but immediately puts a limit to the love that man has for that woman.

I mean, I love you, but don't ask me until then because I'm not going to love you that much either. And do you know what the word of God says? The word of God in the 5th chapter of Ephesians says, "Husbands, love your wives as Christ loves the church," that is, as Christ loves you, so you love your wife. Excuse me, Jesus what does he say at some point? Well, I love you, I'm interested in you as a son, but there's a little part of you that doesn't…I can't love you up there, I can't give myself up there for you. I can't solve that problem for you. Whenever you come to God, whenever you come to Jesus, Jesus tells you, "You can do everything with me." You can do everything, I can do everything in Christ.

You will never come to God and God will tell you, oh, no, it's not that there aren't resources, there isn't time. No, that disease we have not yet discovered the cure. All the answers are in Jesus. And he says, just as you go to Jesus and in him you find all the answers, let your wife live with you in the same way. Never allow your wife to leave your presence without the answer she is looking for. If you don't know the answer, he says, look, I don't know, but I'm in charge of solving this problem.

How are you going to pay the rent? I don't have, I don't know how, but it's my responsibility if tomorrow I have to get up to sell empanadas, if tomorrow I have to clean the house, wash cars, if tomorrow I have to go out and sweep the streets, I'm going to do it, because you married a man who solves all your problems. When you are insecure I am insecure, when you are hurt I am hurt, for which, as we are one, I resolve, I pay, I do, I heal.

What does modern man do? The modern man sees his wife with the problem, he sees the trauma, and the more he falls on her, the more he mistreats her. A woman comes, "Love, how are we going to pay the mortgage?" "I don't know." That is the favorite answer. “And what do you want me to do if it doesn't reach me? What do you want me to do?" pure roosters, kikikiriki. What do you want me to do? Does it say bank here or what? Do you think I have a tree back there in the yard that drops dollars or what? Hey, what kind of answers are those. You are a male. The men say, I don't know, but I pay. I answer. I give you. I got angry.

For a woman it must be spectacular to live with a man she knows that every time she asks him something he has the answer. Say, women love to have... look, let's stop fooling around. When the woman rules a home, it is the man's fault because deep down the woman loves having a man at the helm of a family, at the government of a home. A man who resolves. The woman loves to tell her children, "You know that if dad finds out about this, you know how dad is, and I'm going to tell dad because he resolves."

Men who solve we said in the first service. God created man in his image and likeness and put him in the garden to work and to take care of. We are just made, we cared, we worked, we produced, we were men. That is the definition of a man. Mud. Don't you see it in the child? A child when he is little never comes to you and says, "Dad, am I cute?" Do you know what a child does? It kicks you down. Hombre de Hierro. Spiderman. Do you know what that is? mud.

The Lord Jesus says, “You have to become like a child,” don't you? talk to a 6-year-old, 7-year-old who is not contaminated and what does a child say? If that 7-year-old boy realizes that someone is messing with his sister, he gives his life for his sister. If he realizes that someone came to offend his mother, he has no problem grabbing a stick, a knife, if the child sees that his mother's life is in danger, aaaah, he will kill or die to defend his family . The question is what happens to us as we grow up. What happened to us?

That child can say that he is going to conquer the planets, that he is Ironman, that he has powers superior to those of Spiderman, that he will defend his family, that he will honor his mother and we begin to grow and you talk to that same one, that he was a dreaming child and he runs because the water bill was $47 more expensive and he runs away. We do not know what to do. We lose our manliness. Where do we leave it? At what point on the road to adulthood do we leave the ability to be male and to understand that we can care for and give our lives for a family.

So Solomon who is a wise man solves the problem. For you, gentlemen, who are looking at me with that disgusted face and saying inside, what time did I get into this church, I don't come back here. The comedian, that wretch, all that you are thinking... I ask you a question, I ask you sincerely, how many things are unresolved in your wife's life? Solve them and it would be great if the women when I got home helped me a little and said, “When the pastor said that, I felt that you needed this in your life with me, this, this, this and this, and this. and this and this… with all the fingers.” That's what I want, to learn to be a man like the Bible says, not like your friends or society says.

We haven't figured this out, we haven't done this, I feel insecure. I told them on the show, in Parejados, yesterday for a matter of time I couldn't say it but, the woman was born to be calm. Stop paying your wife a month's mortgage and there you will have her. The man can sleep owing three months, he entered foreclosure, they are going to take away his house and he…. If you don't give security.

Look, a woman is loved by paying her bills. It sounds silly, it sounds interested but listen to me, I can't tell my wife that I love her with excellence if I'm filling her up with debt. I can't tell my wife that I truly love her if all the things around her don't say the same thing that I'm saying. I love you but you have the refrigerator as the source of a main park in our countries, only water and electricity, no more. No, no, I tell you that I love you, but go and look at the fridge, the fridge, and that fridge will say the same thing that I am saying, I love you but go and look at the bank account, what I effort, what I work for you... and with this I'm not saying, oh, it's that you have to fulfill her... you have to make her see you committed to giving everything. He is not asking you for a palace, he is asking you to commit, to fight, to get up early, to stay up late, to invest, to dream, to continue believing that Ironman exists.

It is exhausting for a woman to marry a man who has to keep her down – in Colombia we say – hey, get up, but work, but pay, but…. That wear. Look, there is no such thing as a woman who, due to inertia, follows her husband's speed and leadership, and she is calm because the less she has to work to produce, the more quality time she has to dedicate to her children, which is the most great and eloquent that a woman can have. But you know what happens to the phenomenon of today, the woman is working, working. Ah, so we shouldn't work? No, I'm not saying that. the man was unaware of his obligations and since the man was unaware of his obligations, the woman assumed the role of being the one who provides at home.

Now, a woman will never – listen to this, guys – will never give you something unless she asks for something in return, because she – ah, she's happy to help you, she's happy to work, okay, a month wasn't enough for you, so she works, because like she can't sleep with the debts, but how weird the following month didn't reach the guy either. So, she put a little more, and a little more, but she realizes something, if she pays more, she sends more. She will not give you this, this month I paid more, I send more and there comes a time when a woman abrogates the right to tell your husband, "You shut up, I'm here to pay for everything."

At that moment, do you know what he does? Hell clap your hands. We did it. What did we achieve? We managed to obscure, blur the male, which is what the devil is always looking for from the beginning with society, that the man is erased. Because? Why does the serpent mess with Eve and not with Adam? Because she already knew that if she came with proposals he would kick her twice and send her over... but she said, no, no, no, we're going to destroy Adam's radar first. When we damage the woman, we damage him and annul him. And look at this, what does today's society do? He takes the woman out of the house and puts her in the productive sector, covering all the holes and things that her husband does not pay for. And the feminists come out and say that staying at home is an act that degrades women.

Are you stupid? You are going to stay washing clothes, taking care of children, cleaning bathrooms, you are going to stay there cooking. Is that why you studied? How stupid that you are dedicated to the house, having a whole world ahead of you to achieve all your dreams. And I ask, is the executive woman who achieves her dreams and has a great salary wrong? It's not bad, but it's not the best way, let's not call a good way a better way, because it's not biblical. We treat the woman in the house badly, she's a jerk, and we praise the one at the executive desk. So, we give more value to the executive desk and we damage the crib.

This is an asshole who is raising girls and boys. And it's a good road, but it's not the best. and you choose freely. Because I ask you, be honest with me, who is raising the children today? Here I have an answer, man, can someone help me more? The nannies, the baby sitters. Yesterday I came on the plane with a Colombian baby sitter and she told me, “I have enjoyed those children more than their own parents. I saw them take the first step. I ride them on a bicycle and they tell me, ma.” No, no, but let's not talk about American society, let's talk about Latin American society.

Do you know who is raising our children in Latin America? The service girl, the grandmother. Now we talk about that. Our children are arriving at our houses and the most they find is a piece of paper in the microwave. Our children are coming home and no one is educating them how to do their homework, how to brush their teeth, how to bathe, how to navigate. Our children are coming home and they are immersed in the internet in pornography all day, all night. Who is taking care of the house if the bulwark that God put in the home is being productive? Because he has to answer for what an I don't know what qualifier to put on him, such a scoundrel does not cover. And if you think you should be an executive, go out and make money, please do so. We are not against that, but learn to always choose a better path. because when you retire you may have to use your retirement check to pay for your children's drug treatment, alcoholism or so many problems that the fact that the mother is removed from home can cause.

Think about it. Out there, this sounds retrograde, ambiguous, how stupid those Christians are, they still want to lock up the woman. So, Solomon does this, he solves her problem, but he doesn't solve it just by saying, no, no, don't you know, beautiful among the beautiful... Look what Solomon does, verse 9.

"You and your adornments, my beloved, remind me of the caparisoned mares of Pharaoh's chariots." She says, "I'm ugly," and he says, "my mare." The mares for the king were one of the most expensive and most precious belongings because they were mares brought from Egypt, which were worth an arm and a leg, but also... He is not treating women like an animal, understand the allegorical term very well , poetic, that when they entered... you have seen a Percheron horse or a fine-stepping horse, it opens up, everyone goes Wow! that is, the grandeur when one of these horses entered... those horses opened, there were several horses and they made their way through the people and immediately the people knew that the king was coming. And he says, “ah, but you're like that,” but don't pay attention to the mare, that has a connotation, like ugly, my mare. No.

No, look at this. I ask him, how does he say, you and your decorations? What decorations? Two verses ago she is saying, I am poor, I have to work for my brothers, I am a slave who doesn't even have what to wear. Why does Solomon say "you and your adornments"? Because a man never tells his wife that she is beautiful, if he does not immediately run to buy her all the things and provide them for her to be beautiful.

Gentlemen, that the act of calling your wife beautiful is the most costly act of your life, there is a blessing in that. Never tell your wife that she is beautiful if you don't run and buy her a bag for the beauty, and a necklace, and a perfume, and a cream, and a dress. In this part of the preaching women become wolves. I ask you, how long has it been since your husband gave you a dress without you telling him to give it to him?

I start to finish. Look, he does this, beautiful, and he puts on her earrings, beautiful, and he puts on her necklace, beautiful, and he puts on her dress, you're beautiful. Do you know why your wife doesn't believe you when you tell her that she is beautiful? Because just talking, she's pretty, she's beautiful. Yes, but loosen something. Not that. I to my wife... look, I don't know, it's my way of thinking, for me it is an act of dishonor that my wife tells me, "Hey, look, now..." Well, she will always say, "I don't have what to wear," even if it's the same... but I'm going. Look, I don't let myself steal the blessing. I go with her to a shopping center and tell her, "You fit in that dress, I'm going to buy it for you now." And I buy it. Now, don't do what my wife does sometimes, don't be silly, because they have the habit of doing this. "I'm going to buy you this dress here." "Oh, that's expensive." He already said, he buys it. Who told you that what your husband has to buy you has to be at a sale, it comes out in a garage? If it costs you like this... love me because I'm not cheap. Yes, buy it for you.

So, he calls her beautiful, but Solomon's great resources went into making his doll feel good because his doll was the greatest possession he had.

Let's go to chapter number 2 of the book of Song of Songs, chapter 2 verse 1. I want you to read it, I want you to realize what happens in life...pay close attention to what happens in the life of this woman. She says, she is speaking, the beloved:

"I am a rose of Sharon, a lily of the valleys." Chapter 1, "I am ugly, I am poor, I am not pretty." Chapter 2, "I am a rose of Sharon, I am a lily of the valleys." Chapter 1, "I am ugly." Chapter 2, "I am a Rose of Sharon." Question, what happened? Listen, it was obvious to her that she had met that man, because women have to be aware that there is a before her husband and an after her husband. It has to be noticed.

I don't know if you know of cases like these, relatives saying, "Hey, do you remember this girl, when we went there to the house that was all poor, nobody paid attention to that girl, she didn't attract attention at all, she was ugly, she had wide glasses, do you remember? With some old little shoes and that mom and dad always... that girl was not important in the family, nothing, but look at this, it's not for gossip but I want to tell you. You know, she got a boy, look at what the boy is, oh, don't you see. The other day I ran into her on the street, I didn't recognize her, with her hairstyle, with some earrings, with a bag, with some shoes, she walked so sure, her eyes were shining. He came with a couple of children, it was beautiful, they had just arrived from a cruise because he had gone on his third honeymoon. When she told me, hello, look, I'm Marcela. Look, I almost went backwards, I said, what happened to this girl if this girl got lost going through a tunnel, my God. This was useless. This was a good-for-nothing maid. Look, but she found this guy, the guy honored her, he has her house, he works for her, he pays for her college, the children, he helped her mom because he is helping her family inclusively. Look, there are some who have luck in life, mommy. Why didn't it touch me?"

I don't know, I just told you in the José Ordoñez version, which is the humor version, but bring it to daily life. It is that it has to be noticed. It is that you have to notice that a woman says, my life was one until I saw you, until I found you, my love. There are plenty of reasons to love you, because my life is life since my eyes saw your eyes. What a pleasure it is to live life with a man like you, a man who reflects the image of God here on earth. Wow!

In other words, this is a call for man to be what God says he is, not what society says, or what your friends at the bar say you are. You are the image of God, you are the priest of your house, you are the cover of your children, you are the cover of your wife. When are you going to understand? Stop living with the marital mediocrity with which society lives. In the Bible there is life and life in abundance, not in an ambulance.

And look at the pearl that I find below. Verse 7, and be careful because with this I conclude. The one who speaks is the beloved, that is, Solomon, look what he says:

"I beg you women of Jerusalem for the gazelles and fawns of the forest, not to keep awake or disturb my beloved until she wants to wake up." I mean, he said, shhhhh, the queen is sleeping. Listen, when I read this verse I understood my role as a man growing old with my wife. I thought it was the only time I was going to come across this idea but you are going to find that the same verse is repeated 3 times in the Song of Songs. Look for it you will find it.

And you are going to notice how Solomon raises his tone, the first time he says, look, I beg you please, to all the women that the Shulamite is sleeping, I don't want them to wake her up. But the second time he says, look, I ask that while the queen is sleeping, no one wakes her up. And the third time begins as saying, woe to the one who wakes me up to my doll while she is resting. And you know the joy it gave me and the challenge I received as a man by reading something like this. Because Solomon became the rest for his wrist, because every husband becomes the rest for his wife.

We have a problem, nobody defends the current woman. We need men at home who get up and say, "I'm sorry, dear children, mom for 25 years of her life has gotten up at 5 in the morning to make breakfast, mom for many years has washed clothes and taken care of you." , but dear children, until that time ends. So mom doesn't get up early anymore."

We need men at home who will stand up and say, hey, if you don't like what mom cooked, you cook, because my doll is not your maid. I'm talking about a man who confronts his children. Do you know what the problem is? That man nowadays even hides from his own children. He is afraid of his children. If the son gets angry at him, he gets frustrated. One, as a counselor, goes and talks to the men who have problems with their children. They tell me, "Pastor, I'm tired of telling you." Who told you that being a dad is something you give yourself permission to get tired of?

If there is something in which you cannot get tired, it is in fulfilling the mission that God has given you as a father. I don't tell him anymore, I'm already tired of telling him. No, you are going to tell him once, and again, and again, and you are going to be like a leak with your son, because your son cannot go over your authority. He is your son. Parents don't retire. Retire as a manager but get buried like a dad. You are a dad today and always.

We need men at home who will say, “Son, I'm sorry, I know you dislike my discipline and I give you every right to dislike it. You can be angry with me all you want, but what I have said will be fulfilled in this house because I am not your father by democracy. I did not run an electoral campaign for you to choose me as your father. I didn't fill the house with posters, vote for me as your dad. I do not owe you the place that God has given me. I am your dad because in heaven it was said that I was your dad and if I need to look at your cell phone I will see it, and if I need to take it from you I will take it from you and if I need to disconnect it, and if I need to break it I will break it. I am your dad, there is no such thing as an independent federal republic in your room. I will enter your room as many times as I want, and I will look at your cell phone and do not come to threaten me that you are going to sue me. Sue me if you think you should, but as long as you live in this house here is a law that God dictates and I, your father, will enforce it. You don't talk to mom like that again."

We live in a society where the children talk to their mother however they want in the presence of their father and the father does not stand up to defend her. You have to have problems with the children. “You are my son, but if you talk to mom like that again, it is not going to be that I forget and stop seeing you as a son and see you as a man. You respect my doll, the most sacred thing I have in my life, you speak to me in a low tone, you look into my eyes and you honor her because she is your mother."

It's the same, transcribe it. It's Solomon standing in the palace saying, shhh, the queen is sleeping. In other words, he says, hey, this woman has already messed up a lot in life, this woman was abused by her childhood, this woman was abused by life in her adolescence, in her youth until she came into my arms. And when she reaches my arms I give her the refuge and the calm that she needs. Enough, son, enough.

There was a time when this woman took the bread out of her mouth to give it to you, you don't know, dear daughter, but for you to wear your 15-year-old dress and make yourself beautiful, to buy the shoes you always wanted, your mother wore a cooked bra with thread of another color, but even for that there was a time, dear son, even for that, because you are now a man, you are now a woman, answer for your life because she is my doll and she has someone to defend her.

There is a moment in life, that's why the Bible says that children are… in Psalm 127, they are like arrows. You don't stay with the arrows, the children leave, they shoot themselves, he says. To shoot an arrow you have to go through tension, the arrows do not shoot if there is no tension. It's stressful being a parent but a parent does this. They are grown up, my doll and I owe ourselves a cruise. Woe to the one who messes with my doll, it may be my son, it may be whoever it is, but my doll doesn't have to go around raising grandchildren.

You wonder why our countries are third world, full of poverty, a lot has to do with an inconsiderate man, that his daughter left and got pregnant and she has no problem with coming to give her son for her mother to raise and In our Latin American societies we have grandmothers raising enslaved raising grandchildren, and that brings poverty because the word of God says, honor your mother so that things go well for you. The one who does not honor mom does badly, produces poverty, death, misery.

Did you know that dishonoring the father brings death? Honor him so that you may live long. What does a woman do when she gives him up, or a man, when he comes with a son and gives him to his grandmother to raise him? The condemnation, because the grandchildren are there to be enjoyed.

The mission in life, dear man, is that you be the image of Jesus in your house, that you cover and that you bless. The Bible is designed so that between the ages of 55 and 60, you grab your doll by the arm and say, "Honey, we graduated, we paid for the house, let's go on our honeymoon." Shhh, the queen sleeps. Woe to the one who wakes me up. She has the right to have life.

Close your eyes. Lord, your words are life, they are always, they are now, they are eternal, they do not go out of style, heaven and earth pass but your word remains. The word that teaches us how to have a proper family. The word that teaches us how we should raise children, how we should behave in marriage. For this reason, Lord, we honor your word this afternoon, in this place, and we thank you for having given it to us.