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Rafael Dunker
Summary: Dr Rafael Dunker is a psychiatrist and family therapist who has vast experience in the field. He spoke at a church event and emphasized the importance of sound doctrine and teaching. He then discussed the critical path that leads to illness and premature death, starting with family traumas that lead to harmful attitudes, conflicts, stress, dysfunction, and finally injury. He then presented 5 reconciliations for inner healing that can promote a better quality of life.
The speaker discusses the critical path to premature death, which includes dysfunction, injury, complication, and ultimately death. He emphasizes the importance of managing stress through physical exercise, contact with nature, and a natural diet. He also stresses the importance of reconciliation with others and revising one's own personal attitudes. Biblical passages are used to support these ideas.
The speaker discusses five ways to combat stress and achieve reconciliation in life: reconciliation with the natural world, reconciliation with others, reconciliation with oneself, reconciliation with parents, and reconciliation with God. He emphasizes the importance of listening and understanding one's partner, honoring parents despite their faults, and seeking spiritual healing through a relationship with God. The speaker also notes that attending church and participating in worship can have positive effects on mental and physical health. The talk concludes with an invitation to make positive changes and seek forgiveness and salvation.
The speaker thanks God for His word, which gives guidance and direction in a dark world. They pray for those who have not yet received Jesus as their savior and ask God to touch their hearts. They bless those who make a decision to follow Jesus and ask God to help them enjoy an abundant life, good health, happy marriages, and to be responsible citizens. They end the prayer in Jesus' name.
Dr Rafael Dunker is a man of God, he is a psychiatrist, educated in Spain at the Medical School there, he is a doctor but he has also been director of various academic institutions in the Dominican Republic. He is a family therapist and has run different medical institutions, hospitals and all this. So he has vast experience as a psychiatrist, but above all his foundation is the word of the Lord. He is a simple man who speaks with simple words and that I know is needed today that sound teaching, sound doctrine, the sound word of the Lord.
Listening to him yesterday before men blessed us many and we are going to receive the word of God. How many are eager to hear the word of the Lord. We invite Dr Dunker to stop by. Give a round of applause for our brother. God bless you brother, thank you for being with us.
Thank you brother, God bless you. Amen. Amen. Well, I appreciate Pastor Roberto's invitation to come share with you from the Dominican Republic. I guess there are Dominicans here. Who are dominic.....? Oh! There are even sibaeños, right? ay ay ay. Well, I was born in San Pedro de Macorí but I spent 20 years in Santiago practicing my profession and now I live in Santo Domingo.
And where else are people here from? Are there other people from the Caribbean? Puerto Ricans, yes, Puerto Rico. Ay ay ay. We are the same thing and.... Is there no one from Colombia? From Colombia... let's see... Bolivia, where are the Bolivians? Amen, amen. I have some friends in Bolivia, yes, yes.
And what about Central America? Costa Rica, Panama, Salvador too, Salvador. Amen. Amen. What other country? Chili. There in Chile we have our family integration program that we produce. It is broadcast by 20 stations in Chile. I don't know if some have been there? But we made it to Chile, thank God.
Is there another country that stayed with us? Uruguay. Where is Uruguay? Uruguay. God bless you, man. God bless you. Venezuela, where are they? Cuba, where are the Cubans? God bless you brothers.
Well, we are ..... beautiful and dear Mexico. Excellent. I was also in Mexico. There I attended a congress of my specialty several years ago and it was very good to be there in the square, what is it called? Where there are many... the square, well, I don't remember, Garibaldi. I was by Garibaldi over there. Well, brothers, thanks for the opportunity. I would like to invite you to open your Bibles. I think we are going to have the projector helping us and perfectly. Let's read in the first psalm... If you want to stand, brothers, and let's read in unison the first three verses of Psalm One. Let's read in unison the first three verses of Psalm One. Let's all read, so says the word of God :
“Blessed is the man who did not walk in the counsel of evil, nor was he in the way of sinners, nor has he sat in the chair of mockers, but in the law of Jehovah is his delight. And on his law he meditates day and night. He will be like a tree planted by streams of water that bears its fruit in its season and its leaf does not fall, and everything he does will prosper."
How they praise God. Thank you very much, Father, for your word, and for these great promises, Lord, to which we take refuge. Oh Lord, you have promised to be with us, accompany us, bless us and give us that special quality of life that comes through the filling of your Holy Spirit. Use everything we are going to do, Lord, to bring inner healing, so that we appropriate the life that you have promised us in the Gospel and we live, Lord, above the common and traditional level of life. Give us, Lord, that life. Use it all for your glory and our blessing. In the name of Jesus. Amen. Amen.
You can sit down. Well, I would like to talk about 5 reconciliations for inner healing. I would like to show you some steps to promote a quality of life. I would like to show you, brothers, why we get sick. What is the process that leads us to not enjoy the life that God had in the beginning. And 5 steps, 5 tools that God has placed in our hands so that we have a better quality of life.
How many want inner healing? How many want to appropriate the life that God has for us? And that they do not want to depend only on doctors, on the health system, but rather appropriate the tools that God has placed within our reach.
I would like to show you first of all a lesson I have had, from what I call the personal critical path. That is the path that leads us towards illness and premature death. I would like to show you the first one in this picture... Imagine some stops that we go through from one point to another and they are the stops that determine the deterioration of the quality of life until death.
The first stop is family traumas. The word of God does not allow that word to be used properly because there are at least two situations in the Bible that can correctly be designated as traumas. One is the one found in Proverbs 29, verse 15 where it says, 'the spoiled son will shame his mother'. You know that passage, right?
"The rod and correction give wisdom but the pampered boy will shame his mother."
That's a trauma. I remember that lady with her husband who came to see me at the office because their son had taken a bad path: the path of drugs. And after talking to me for a while, at the end of the interview, the sobbing mother says, 'Doctor, why did this have to happen to us? We have raised that son as the apple of our eye, we have not denied him anything. We have given him all the pleasures. And while she was telling me all this, I thought to myself, right there is the problem.
The spoiled son will embarrass his mother, his father, the family, the church and all of society. God told us before, that's why we can say with authority, consent harms children. Always telling them yes, making them believe that they are the kings of the universe, creating the fantasy of living in a world without limits, without borders, does harm to the children. That's family trauma. Some of us are raised in an environment of consent. We were spoiled and that marked us and that is the beginning of the critical path.
Another passage that allows us to talk about trauma is Ephesians, Chapter 6, when Paul, speaking about the family, says as follows, he says in Chapter 6 verse 4:
“ ... And you fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and admonition of the Lord.”
This is the opposite, resentment. Raising children with extreme harshness. When I lived in San Pedro de Macorí, Dominican Republic, I had a neighbor who was called 'Papachón'. Papachón was a naughty boy and they gave him what back in the Dominican Republic used to be called pela con guayo. Guayo is something that serves to scratch the coconut, whoever knows it will understand it better. A fight with a guayo means that Papachón was hit with blows, blows, and when they finished giving him all those blows, they stuck him in the guayo, put a stone on his head, in full sun, and he had to stay that way. If the stone fell, another round of blows would come. And next to us we saw that poor boy suffering all that.
But later we grew up and every time I returned to my town they told me about Papachón's adventures. Papachón joined a leftist group, a militant, communist group, and there they trained him to plant bombs. And every time a bomb went off in my town, the police went looking for Papachón.
How did Papachón learn to throw bombs? He will not have learned it with those slaps they gave him when he was a boy. A resentful boy. Resentment hurts. Going overboard with punishment is the other form of trauma.
So the critical path starts with those traumas. But immediately the traumas determine harmful attitudes. I want to explain to you, brothers, that when we grow up in environments, as the psychologist says, dysfunctional, family environments that are not appropriate, that determines attitudes.
The boy who is raised with a lot of punishment, he develops an evasive character, because he is always waiting for him to be slapped. He grows up but continues like this as if waiting for what they are going to give him. The other one, the one who was spoiled too much, that one is always hoping that they will put him in the first place because they raised him without limits.
So, those are harmful attitudes. In other words, family trauma damages us and determines harmful attitudes. And they are the attitudes with which we are going to deal in the Christian life. We come here to church but we come with all those traumas that we carry with us from our childhood. They are traumas that determine, as the Scripture says, roots of bitterness that later, as you will see, translate into physical, emotional and social discomfort.
From there, then we have to define that traumas lead us to conflicts. That is. Third, the third stop is conflicts. As the saying goes, God raises them and the devil puts them together. TRUE? You meet your equal and here comes the problem. I know that one solves it very easily.
When you have a problem with people, whose problem is it? Of course, from the people. In other words, I am the one who tells the story, he tells it in his own way. Then one says, the others have screwed me, they envy me, the others. But it's always the others and I of course am the biggest part... but I want to give you different news: we are part of the problem. Because we have harmful attitudes is that we see ourselves in trouble with other people. So those are problems are the third stop on the critical path.
So, that determines that we find ourselves in problems that cause stress. You've heard of that word 'stress', right? It is a word of our century. Stress comes from conflict. You are going to say, I have a problem with my mother-in-law. Does anyone have a problem with their mother-in-law? But I don't think about that. Hey, you don't think, but there is a computer in there in the brain. The brain is the magnificent and tremendous computer that does not erase anything and the computer of our unconscious does elaborate that, and that ends up causing stress.
In other words, conflicts generate stress. And stress causes dysfunction. A part of our being malfunctions, there are people who feel it in their stomach, since the game stops they feel like something there, an acidity, a relief, a what do I know, they cannot explain, but they feel it in their stomach. There are others who get the flu when they are stressed, some get the flu when they are under stress. There are others who do not sleep; others lose their appetite; others eat too much; others get... they have to be going... In other words, everyone reacts in their own way.
There is someone who goes out to invent, to do things and gets intoxicated, uncontrolled sex. In other words, because there is a moment when the organism decompensates. Chronic stress, doctors explain to us that initial stress is rather healthy. Stress is a preparation for fight or flight, to face situations and then the body prepares us with the greatest amount of energy possible; the heart beats, the blood fills with the elements to produce energy, and the whole body is prepared to face dangers.
At first this is convenient but when this lasts for too long, then stress begins to do its damage, these dysfunctions appear. You will go to the doctor and the doctor will tell you, you have high blood pressure but you are not hypertensive, what is the problem? Do you have problem?
In other words, the doctor realizes at the beginning when he does an electrocardiogram that this pressure is reactive. What the doctor is telling you is that you are in the dysfunction stage. Or they do a study of your blood, blood sugar, a glycemia, and they are going to tell you, you have high sugar but you are not diabetic, what is wrong with you? You have problems, an endocrinologist colleague told me that he had this patient well controlled, without problem, and taking his medicine and suddenly he loses control and when he goes and finds out, he says, it is that his daughter left with the driver. That raises anyone's sugar.
But at first it's a dysfunction, it's a dysfunction. The body begins to go haywire somehow. If that continues, then comes what I want to call the stage of injury. Now the damage becomes more stable, the doctor will tell you, you suffer from blood pressure, you suffer from sugar, you suffer from thyroid, you are depressed, you are schizophrenic, you are alcoholic. He puts a label on it and knows what that means: from now on, you live to support me. You help support the colleagues, the white mafia. Sorry colleagues.
The doctor is not going to tell you clearly, but from there, you stop being a thinking object, dignity, and all that stuff. You are something that at a given moment arrives and they put you through a, they are going to do a CT scan. And you are like a thing that they put you in there and take you out. And you sit there and they inject him and they do him. You have already lost all that pride of being individual, self-sufficient. You are a poor victim dependent on the health system.
And from there, we have two more stops on the critical path. The next is that a complication is coming. You know what it is right? a complication. And finally people will say, how good it was. Because everyone who dies was good. People get like, identify with the dead and forget all their bad things. When you see that they are speaking well of someone in the press, on television, say, oh, that one died. Because while one is alive what they find is defects. What a problem with people. While one is alive, they don't see the good things, it's just attacking all the bad things and we all have bad things. But since one dies, there is, but it was so good and they begin to see the...
Well, that's the picture. And I want to go from here. What I would like to see, brothers, is what we can do, what we can do. Because this is simply an x-ray, a critical path of why we die before our time. So now I would like us to review this path from the bottom up, from the bottom up to see what tools God has placed in our hands that we can use for a better quality and life expectancy.
How many want to do it? say amen So let's see what we can do. The first thing is that we cannot do anything in the face of the fact of death. God has given each person resources to protect their own health. We cannot fully surrender our health to the monopoly of doctors. We will see below 5 reconciliations and the measures that each person can take for their integral healing.
Well, first of all I want to pose to deal with stress, from then on we can handle the situation. And I want to give you good news. We have resources to manage stress. I know you know about tranquilizers. But I want to give you resources that are within your reach so that you can cut that critical path that leads to premature death.
And there are three things we can do. And all three imply a reconciliation with the natural environment. And God said that everything was very good. But then the man began to invent things. Inventing things that destroyed the goodness of God's work.
First of all, the first measure, the next is gymnastics. God did not make us, brothers and sisters, to live sitting down. God made us to move. And when we move and sweat, our body heals from the inside. How many say amen? An investigation of the National Institute of Mental Health of this country, an investigation that they have repeated several times, demonstrated that 30 minutes of physical exercises daily, are as effective as tranquilizers or antidepressants. How many say amen? I am giving you important information. If you do gymnastics every day, your body gets rid of the toxins that make us sick. What happens is that the system is made so that we do not exercise. You have your car, right? and all that, and you arrive at the big store and there is an elevator that you get on without moving, and everything is automatic. The big buildings also have elevators and one hardly moves. What one does is remain static, but if we move we heal. Shrimp that falls asleep is carried away by the current, says the saying.
We have to learn to move. That is why you see that people are running down the street because all the doctors of all the specialties are recommending to their patients what medical science has discovered, that when one exercises, the body works better. So come on, I'm telling you. If you do, you are treating your body with care. If you don't, if you get carried away with the fast-paced routine of life that characterizes this great nation, you are neglecting your bodily stewardship.
And secondly, there is another experience that has been scientifically proven, is that when one comes into contact with nature the body balances inside. Look, the following experiment has been done: a monitor is placed on a person, that means a device that measures pulse, pressure, temperature, all the biological constants, so says the doctor. So, that person is made to go to work and serve clients that come in, meaning that clients are unpredictable, and that is losing control. And when that person is at their daily work, the pressure rises, the pulse rises, the stomach gets out of control. In other words, the entire organism goes into crisis. And that is measured on the device, the monitor. When that same person does so, and goes to the river and puts one foot in the river water, and the water makes contact with his body, the pressure drops, the pulse is controlled. That is scientifically measured.
From the moment you look at the moon, the sun, the mountain, the greenery of the plant, or you play with a child, you come into contact with nature, the body heals from within. How many say amen? Do you know what that means, brothers? That paradise is the natural world that God made. If we live in walls all the time, inside motor vehicles, in human structures, we get sick. The normal lifestyle should include returning to the world that God created, returning to the river, to the sea, to the mountain, to the animals. And that way we heal inside and stress disappears. How many praise God?
Finally, it has also been shown that a natural diet contributes to lowering stress. Look, the system has fooled us. The system we live in has deceived us. We already have the tools to build paradise on earth, but the mercantile system, the consumer society in which we live, has made us a fraud and has put things into us that do more harm than good.
First I mention water. Brothers, our body needs water. But the man invented Coca Cola. So you are not thirsty for water, but for Coca Cola. Everything in Coca Cola does damage, except the water that is the base. So you can choose between drinking Coca Cola or all that other stuff out there or drinking the water that God created. The same goes for the fruit. Look, when you eat a piece of fruit...
I was in Puerto Rico at a conference and they put me up at the house of a missionary sister and when we were having dinner she told me, 'Brother Dunker, these capsules for diabetes, for migraines, for the heart, for...' and she gave me about 15 diseases and since I am a doctor, I did not want to contradict her and I took the medicine and began to see what was that magical substance that I could do so many things. And do you know what it was? It's a natural product made from dried fruit peels, pulverized and made into capsules, and that works.
It has been shown that vegetables have a substance called fibrous waste, which is good for all of that. You eat an orange, for example, and when you eat not only the juice but also the white part of the orange, it's good for everything: it improves digestion, it's good for diabetes, for all those diseases. God put elements in the fruit to protect our health, to detoxify us. But the man invented artificial orange juice. And you go to the supermarket, and 'I have orange juice', it's a fraud. It's not really orange juice.
A sister who works in a juice factory in New York told me, 'Brother Dunker, if you see how they do it, you don't drink it.' They don't have the natural vitamins, they don't have the stringy residue, they don't have the kind of sugar that God put in the juice. They have artificial sugar, it has a series of substances to give it color, to give it flavor and all of that is being shown to be harmful.
When you go to the supermarket, remember me. And instead of buying all that junk, buy fruit. Have fruits at home to eat. That was what God did. You want to heal inside, be reconciled with the universe that God created. Praise God by eating what he made. And eat whole grains. Do you know what that means? That you eat the wheat that God made, the rice that God made, and not the one that the system has invented.
I have commented elsewhere that there was a time in this country when there was such prejudice against blacks that they wanted to whitewash everything, even food. And then one of those wise men discovered that by removing the head of the wheat they made a white flour as the system wanted it. And that is the white bread that you sometimes eat. A denatured wheat, a wheat from which the main nutritional elements that God put in it to eat have been removed.
The system is fooling us. The same goes for rice. The rice is not white, but the head was removed and it turns white. The sugar is not white, but they add a little lime to it and it turns white. Because the system wanted everything white. So when you go to the supermarket, remember me. You can eat black bread, white bread, well, take your pick. But if you want to eat the bread that Jesus Christ ate, the bread that God expected us to eat, demand whole wheat bread. How many say amen?
Well, I know you're not going to take me away, because custom makes law, but I'm telling you. God has commanded me to bring you this message today so that you will not be fooled by the system and live more according to the natural world.
Secondly, to deal with conflicts we have to achieve reconciliation with people. To live in peace we need an attitude of reconciliation towards all people.
I want to give you some passages of Scripture that clearly describe this for us. Look at this beautiful verse, brothers, what a beautiful word from God.
"If it is possible as far as it depends on you, be at peace with all men"
How many say amen? One sometimes reads this, one reads the Scripture and one thinks that this is a capricious God, sending things simply to order. But God knows that when we forgive or when we ask for forgiveness, we are healed on the inside. And our body works better. That is why this verse should be a challenge for us, be at peace with all men.
Christianity is a doctrine of reconciliation. The Jews did not know the mystery of forgiveness that comes after Christ dies on the cross for our sins. The Arabs do not know the doctrine of forgiveness either, which is why the war in the Middle East is difficult.
But it is the Gospel that tells us the blood of Jesus Christ cleanses us from all sin and enables us to forgive and ask for forgiveness.
There is another passage, our Lord Jesus Christ in the Sermon on the Mount, "...if your brother sins against you, go and rebuke him, while you and he are alone, if he hears you, you have won your brother ”. That is in Matthew 18, it is the discourse on the protocol of Jesus Christ for interpersonal relationships.
Go and tell him off, don't gossip. Don't comment with another, go to the person. Jesus Christ knew there was going to be trouble. Look, this group that I'm looking at is so beautiful, heterogeneous, it's very nice to see it from here. But, look at the coexistence, we rub against each other. That is why it says in so many passages of Scripture, “...bearing with one another”.
I put up with you and you put up with me. And that forces us to ask for forgiveness. Brother, forgive me that I touched you a little. I forgive you. You have to forgive and ask for forgiveness and that is what the other passage tells us, this one is from the sermon:
“...if you bring your offering to the altar and there you remember that your brother has something against you, leave your offering there before the altar, and go, be reconciled first with your brother and then come and present your offering.”
Brothers, we all offend. In all kinds of sins, all sins are the same size. The difference is that some repent and leave the sin. If you are going to stand up here, before going up Christ asks you, examine yourself, don't talk, don't preach, don't even let the sun go down on your anger, first reconcile with your brother. Forgive, apologize.
How can you pray?, says the song, if you are not reconciled. In other words, God asks us to be in good relationship with each other in order to get closer to him. May God help us then to these recipes clearly from Scripture that show us the path of reconciliation.
Third, one of the most difficult problems is revising our own personal attitudes. The previous one... exactly. Look at the words of Jesus Christ in the Sermon on the Mount. Jesus Christ is the great connoisseur of human nature and says Matthew 7:25
"... why do you look at the speck that is in your brother's eye and do not notice the beam that is in your own eye”
Or how will you say to your brother, let me remove the speck from your eye, and behold, in your eye. Hypocrite. First remove the plank from your own eye and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
Many times a sister comes to my office, sometimes married to an unconverted husband, and she stands in front of me and begins to say, 'Oh, brother Dunker, you have to help me with my husband. Look, I have it out there. That man...', and he begins to tell me about the wickedness of that husband and I listen, and oh but... sister, what a pity you have such a man... let me see your husband. And then the husband comes in. And this has happened to me several times when he is in front of me and then he tells me, 'look doctor, I didn't want to come to this interview, but since I'm here, let me tell you who that little woman is who just passed by. ..' And this man begins to tell me about his wife, sometimes a Christian wife, and at the end I say to myself, but who is the bad guy or the bad guy in this movie. What do you think? The two of them, neither Juan nor Juana, but Juan and Juana.
Do you know how I make money in my family therapy practice? I'm going to tell you here because you don't go to Santo Domingo to tell people. But I'm going to tell you the secret. Look how I earn my money. A couple comes with problems in their marriage so I talk to one first, the one who is most anxious and I take all the data: ah, he does this, he does this, he does that. And I write it down, because experience and my training have confirmed to me that everything a woman tells me about her husband is true. Write that down and then the husband comes in and I write down everything he tells me about his wife, and I also know that everything a husband tells me about his wife is true. They are not wrong, they know more than any psychologist, but about the rest, so when I have all that there, all that data, I already know what I have to work on in the following appointments.
So the next appointment I just work what they told me. There is no magic. I work what they have told me. They come for successive consultations, but they have to pay me for each consultation, you see. But I am working on the same thing that they have told me. The moral of all this is that if a man listens to his wife and a woman listens to her husband, they don't need a family therapist.
If you learn to listen, look, I thank God that I have learned to listen to Fiorda Lisa. I used to think, 'but Lord, if this woman like no...' but later I discovered that it is that women have a different way of seeing things. Precisely what I don't see is what Fiorda Lisa sees. So if I listen to Fiorda Lisa, nobody can beat me.
So, that's how I earn my money. I know that you are not going to listen to me, luckily, and that you are going to continue coming to the office to pay for my consultation, because you are not going to listen to your partner. You are going to continue saying, you have to change my husband, you have to change my wife. Doctor, look, here I brought it to you. I can't stand this woman. The fault is in her. 50, 50, half and half. We have to learn to see the beam that is in our own eye.
I applied that in my marriage and on one stellar occasion when things didn't work out I went somewhere and said that prayer. I said to God, 'examine me, oh God, Fior says that I am the bad guy. Examine me, O God, and see if there is any wickedness in my way. Because until that moment I only said, Lord, change Fior's heart. I thought that with that the game was fixed, because she was the one that had to be changed. From that opportunity, God began to show me that there were some things, not very big, you see, but some things... some things that I had to change. And with that gap God saved my marriage.
Today I have a happy marriage by the grace of God. Not because of my psychiatry or my psychology, or my medicine, but by the grace of God. Because he taught me to see this open road in which one participates just like his partner in the crisis.
So that's the way to combat harmful attitudes. When you learn to change yourself, to observe yourself, don't say 'I am like that'. You can change. That is what the Gospel does, change our attitudes, grow, sanctification. All this implies is that you become like the person of Christ, the maturity, the stature of Jesus Christ. A Christian cannot say 'I am like that and you have to accept me that way'. You can change, God help you to do it. How many say amen?
"I am clay, mold me Lord", so many songs say. May the Lord do it with us.
And fourthly, coming to what for the psychologist is the root of the problem, family traumas, I want to tell you that the key to this is in this verse of Scripture, and it is what we read in Ephesians and in the 10 commandments, "honor your father and your mother so that your day may be long, in the land that Jehovah, your God gives you."
And then, Paul repeats this when he says “....honor your father and your mother, which is the first commandment with a promise, that it may go well with you and that you may live long on earth.” .
Look, brothers, it is a word that is a word said with all the greatest intelligence in the world. The one who inspires Paul to say this is a God who made us and knows us. And the real root of the trauma is in this verse. The commandment is "honor your dad and your mom", have them on a pedestal. And the promise, so that things go well for you and you have a long life on earth.
You remember the critical path that I presented to you at the end, which ends with premature death, but begins with family trauma. When you heal with dad, with mom, you heal the root that psychologists see in the problem, and you solve the problem of family traumas.
I was talking about this at a youth meeting on the beach, in Boca Chica, Dominican Republic, and when I finished speaking, one of the young leaders of the group stands up crying and tells me, ' brother Dunker, you tell me to honor daddy and mommy, but daddy was a bum, he abandoned us. Mama stayed with us, she pushed us forward and we became people because of Mama. And you tell me to honor dad as I honor mom.'
What do you think? It is what the word of God says. Honor the dad that I gave you, honor the mom that I gave you. I have had that irresponsible, abusive father in my office, and do you know what happens when you know that father's story? That he too was abused in his childhood. And that son, if he is not healed, will follow the chain and will recycle the same abuse with his own children.
That's why God says, 'we have to stop that chain of curses.' To the dad that I gave you, forgive him, honor him and keep him on a pedestal. How many say amen? To the mom I gave you, honor her and keep her on a pedestal. Look, and all the psychologist talks about psychotherapy basically boils down to that, a reconciliation with dad and a reconciliation with mom. That is sometimes a tortuous and difficult road, but when you do it, you heal inside. May God bless you and help you do it.
Finally, I have to add a point, because the psychologist ends here, but we have to add an additional point and that is reconciliation with God. We have seen reconciliation with the natural world, reconciliation with oneself, reconciliation with people, reconciliation with parents, psychology talks about all of this, but there is one point that is the root of the problem, and it is the spiritual death of the man, separation from God.
That is why we stray from his holy purpose and all the consequences come, such as illness. And how interesting that a man like Pascal is credited with this expression. He said "our soul has a God-shaped void and as long as God himself does not fill that void we are unsatisfied." How many say amen?
God made us for himself. And while our soul is not filled with it, it is filled with little substitute dioceses that we seek in the world, but that are unable to satisfy the human soul. As Jesus Christ said to the Samaritan woman "... whoever drinks of that water will thirst again, but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will be in him like a fountain that springs up to eternal life". How many praise God? Blessed be his name.
That's why a medical investigation carried out in California, this was published in a magazine Selections, with a population of several thousand people, they showed that people who go to church like you who come every Sunday to the church, get sick less than those who do not go to church. How many say amen?
And when they get sick they do better in their sickness than people who don't have faith. And they live longer. How many praise God? How many want to give a round of applause to God? An applause.
Because, brother, you say to come here, some people will say, waste time, but I am going to give you good news. Look, when you come here, this is okay, brother, coming to the service, you think it has emotional value and from a health point of view, this opportunity to meet people, greet them, hug them. God bless you. Does that help? Aid.
When you stand up and begin to praise God and raise your hands, you give yourself over to praise. Does that have anything to do with inner life? That's just like aerobics, all the stress is gone. And when you stop to listen to the preaching to help you live a more orderly life, what's the difference? The difference is that you say on Sunday, what am I going to do? what I do today? So he starts to invent every Sunday and he invents things that end up hurting him. That is why this statistic shows us that coming here to praise God has repercussions on all our internal health.
May his name be blessed. To him be the glory. To him be the glory. That is why we can conclude, the 5 reconciliations, how to combat stress, reconciliation with the natural world. How to combat the following conflicts, reconciliation with the person, forgive and ask for forgiveness. How to combat harmful attitudes, reconciliation with oneself, a spirit of self-criticism. How to combat family traumas, reconciliation with mom and dad. And finally how to combat spiritual death, reconciliation with God.
And this brings us back to the passage we had at the beginning. Look brothers, how beautiful. Amen. "It will be, - that is the promise. Hold on to it, brothers, like a tree planted next to a stream that bears its fruit in its season and its leaf does not fall and everything you do will prosper." Blessed be his name. Amen. Amen.
Let's pray. Let's pray. I would like to invite you to pray and if you want to say a special prayer, please stand up right now. And I hope that some of you are going to make decisions in your heart, you are going to make decisions in your heart, decisions to change your lifestyle, to change your lifestyle. Some will make decisions to forgive or apologize to their partner, or to someone else. Some are going to forgive dad. You are going to make the decision to forgive dad. That is inner healing. And it is possible that there is someone here who has not received Jesus Christ as his personal savior, and who this morning wants to say, I receive Jesus Christ as my personal savior.
I would like to invite you, if anyone wants to come here in front, I want to say a prayer for you, because you are going to make changes in your life. I want to give that opportunity to come up here so that we can have that prayer. Amen. They sell here in front. If you want to make changes in your life, change your lifestyle, if you are deciding to forgive, if you are deciding to ask for forgiveness, if you are deciding to receive Jesus Christ as your personal savior, if you want this word to reach you and that this Sunday means a change of direction in your life, I invite you to come here to the front so that we can participate in this prayer.
Our Father, thank you very much for your word. Thank you because it is a lamp that illuminates us in the midst of the darkness of this world. Sir, the world has a lot of technology, a lot of knowledge, but it does not have the light of life. That is found in your word. Thank you very much, Lord, because we are not lost in the world. Thank you because there is a path, an orientation that we can follow.
I want to ask you, Lord, for my brothers this morning, especially for those who have come to the front. Lord, some of them have decided to forgive, others have decided to ask for forgiveness, give them the will to do it as soon as possible, Lord. Forgive dad, mom, siblings, uncles, husband, wife, friend, co-worker, oh Lord, give a spirit of forgiveness, of reconciliation in your children so that there is inner healing.
Lord, and some have also come to receive Jesus Christ as their personal savior, you know him. Lord, don't leave here without that decision that is the ticket to a new life, Lord.
Oh, Lord look at their hearts. From each of these people who make a decision at this moment that this day marks a new course in their lives. Oh Lord, I bless them in your name, I bless them so that they enjoy the abundant life that you promise in the Gospel so that they do well in their health, in their bodies, in their emotions, so that they do well in their marriages and to be effective and responsible citizens in the midst of this corrupt society. I bless them in your name, Lord. thank you, because you will do it in the name of our Lord and savior Jesus Christ. Amen. Amen. Thank you brothers, God bless you.