To restore a marriage, one is enough

I have a biblical verse, which is one of my favorite verses, I learned that biblical verse since I was a recent convert, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature, old things have passed away and, behold, everything is made new, very good, very well, you are well discipled. It was my favorite Bible verse since I converted, but I didn't know how much that Bible verse was going to make me suffer. Because that biblical verse says that everything, everything has happened, everything has to be new. Because if anyone is in Christ, it is a new creature, it is to be born again, it is not supposed that I am what I was, but that everything is made new.

What becomes new, my moral life changes, my moral life becomes totally new, so that if I was a lustful lecher, if I was an adulterous fornicator, now in Christ things are different, He brings to our hearts a purity that we did not know, that we did not know that it was even possible to live like this. If we were the type of people who had embraced false religions, we had embraced false faith, and we had believed in false prophets and idols, when the light of truth shone on us, we in Christ renounced our idols, we renounced false religions and we decided to embrace a single truth, a single Messiah, a single savior, who is the way, the only truth and life. Someone without him no one will see the face of God.

So we embrace that, and many of us when we testify of the works of God in our lives talk about these things, and we say how God has changed our lives, and we testify of how God transformed all those things, but there are few who rise up. a, at an altar to testify that, I was a person who got very angry, I was a person who was a backbiter, I was a person who hardened my heart against those who abused me, but God freed me from that. Few people talk about character transformations. Few people stand up to testify as a sign of God's power saying, I was a disrespectful wife, I was an irritating husband with my wife, I was an abusive husband. Few rise up to testify of that.

Because we are usually so aware of the first two kinds of sin, which is the immorality type of sin and the false faith, idolatry type of sin, we are very aware of that. But we are not necessarily so aware, in the same way so aware of all sins of character. Which are precisely the largest list of sins that exists when God makes a list of sins, the longest list is precisely the sins of character.

So it seems to me that we have to see that the days of the Lord are near, when we see that the coming of Christ is near, we need to stop, and ask about the ancient paths, and ask ourselves what are the fundamentals of the gospel? What is the essence of the truth, preached by Jesus? We have to ask ourselves why, because along the way we have been able to lose the essence of what the gospel truly represents or should represent. And the first analysis that we have to do if we go, for example, to Jesus' speech is as soon as Jesus began to preach what am I talking about? Blessed are those who no longer fornicate, was that what He said? Blessed are those who abandoned the false gods, is that what He said? No.

He began to preach his message saying "Blessed are the contrite in spirit, Blessed are the poor in spirit." And what does poor in spirit mean? The word, the definition or the word that defines poor in spirit is the word humility. And what He said was blessed are the humble. And He went on to say blessed are the meek. He went on to say blessed are the peacemakers. And his message practically obviated the other sins. Because. Because if we come to see, the easiest sins to abandon are the sins of immorality. The easiest sins to abandon are the sins that have to do with the occult and false religions, false faith. But the sins that are not so easy to give up are the sins that have to do with our fallen temper, our character. Because many times we filter the gospel, we filter the powerful truths of the gospel, we filter them, and unfortunately we have the wrong filter, and we lose, we lose the power of the truth, because we have a filter that does not allow us to understand the fullness, the greatness of its truths.

And what is the filter that we have, the filter of our justice. The filter of what we understand to be my rights. And when we receive the word with an earthly heart, the earthly heart claims rights, and the earthly heart claims justice according to man. And that's why the Bible says it clearly. I have come to abrogate the law where you lived. Where it was acceptable to live an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, but not now. But if you are wounded on one cheek, now in my name, turn the other cheek. If you are forced to walk one mile, in my name now go with him two. If the tunic is taken from you in my name, now give him the cloak as well.

That is not fair. And who said that the gospel was fair. The gospel is a gospel of mercy, because if it were for justice, many of us would not be here. Many of us wouldn't even be married, because each of us has done enough to deserve to be put away. But for God the relationship is worth much more than being right. I'm used to preaching about this, and not hearing applause or amen or hallelujah, I'm used to it, don't worry, what I need is ears to hear and nothing else (applause).

And by the way, I have to clarify that if I speak like this it is because I come from there. I come from having been raised by a military father, from having been by a macho father, from having been raised in a hostile home, where there were no hugs or love, let alone forgive me. I come from a home where my father had the first and the second and the third word, I come from such a family. And when I married this woman, I married a pastor. And our first congregation that we founded, by ourselves because we were already associate pastors in another church but when we got married we founded our own church, in another city, and three months after we were married we had already built our church.

Our marriage practically rose practically in our ministry. And the ministry developed in our marriage. And when I married her, prophets, pastors, and bishops blessed us and declared a prophetic word about us that we would be a marriage with impact, a blessing, that we would be an example, that we would be a lot of beautiful things, and that we would travel the world. carrying this message, and for me I said wow how much they love us. But for me it was exaggerated. Because I never imagined that a word like this would come true. And I remember that I told my girlfriend by the time we got married, I told her Mimbre, I promise you that I will never imitate my father, I will never reproduce his attitudes towards you, I will never be a husband like my dad, much less a father like him I promise you that I will make you happy, and I will be very different.

But I discovered a truth that I am ashamed to confess but that I have to confess to you, because I have discovered that there are many children of the dead. In the midst of our ministry and my life in God, surrounded by a revival of the Holy Spirit, I knew how to live a double life. What did that double life consist of? A man who was so full of God in the midst of the services, spoke in tongues constantly because of the strong anointing that he felt from God, but likewise he could leave the service and arrive at my house, and with the same tongue that he had spoken in languages angelic to worship God, with that same tongue I punished my wife, constantly reproaching her, scolding her all the time, hurting her, and disrespecting her. I did not realize when little by little this began to happen, I knew that there was a lot of stress because I worked as a manager in a pharmaceutical company and in the vision, pastoring a church practically in daily activities, training, discipleship, worship , and it was very difficult.

But nothing can be an excuse, nothing gives me a license to mistreat my wife. But I justified it. I felt comfortable because whenever I acted like this I felt that I was right. It was horrible because it was like seeing her, like I was superior to her. God began to confront me, but I couldn't perceive it, I couldn't understand it. Until the day our firstborn was born, that day there were so many emotions, I was so happy that our daughter was born, the doctor who saw so much joy and enthusiasm in me as soon as the baby came out, the doctor put her in my hands. And as soon as I touched her and saw the precious girl that God was giving us, I prayed in my heart and said: "God, I just long, that's all I ask for my daughter to love you."

And the Spirit of God immediately spoke to my heart and said: "King, to the extent that you behave like Christ in your home, and to the extent that your daughter sees the personality of Jesus in you in your home, to the extent that she He's going to learn to love me."

That was where I came to understand that my daughter's eternal future was going to depend not on Bible studies or cults, or Bible schools or summer camp. And there I was able to understand that the eternal future of my daughter was going to depend on the testimony that I gave her, inside my house. Because the children are not happy because we are good parents, the children are happy when we are good husbands. I remember one day that I was receiving a teenager in my office, who came for counseling, and when I receive a teenager in my office I am so happy, because rarely do adolescents come to ask pastors for advice, and I felt so happy and I began to talk so jovially with him and I say, hey, tell me what your dad is like.

And he with that joy told me my dad is a success. And I was happy because it's weird right?, and I tell him and tell me why?. And he tells me that my dad loves me so much, he tells me all the time, he comes to my house and the first person he looks for is me. He plays with me, he always has advice to share with me, my dad loves me so much because he always prays for me. I told him wow, the truth is that your dad is admirable, and your mom tell me, tell me. And he tells me wow, my mom is another success. It's just that mom goes out of her way for me. She loves me so much and you see that she is always seeking my well-being, and advises me, but she always serves me, she is always serving me, she is trying to please me, although she is also well disciplined with me.

And I ask him, and what are you doing here? And begins to cry. And he cried profusely. While he was crying I was watching him, I let him cry for a while and I told him, I don't understand, why are you like this. And he told me as follows: Pastor, I would give anything for my dad to stop loving me as much as he loves me, as long as I see him love my mom as much as he loves me. I would give anything to leave, what's more, I give up the time we play together, as long as I see him enjoy my mom sharing, playing with each other. That he doesn't pray for me, but that he prays with mommy. Pastor, I am afraid, my parents are Christians, but I feel that they do not love each other as they love me, and that they love me does not make me happy, I want them to love each other, because that does fill me up. That does satisfy me.

When I don't see them very close, when I don't see them very sensitive to each other, I lose the desire to live, and that's what I long for, pastor help me father. And that is what I long for. Every time I tell this story my soul breaks, because I just think, if one day my children had had to go to another pastor's office to vent their souls, because they do not see unity between their parents, I would not have forgiven myself. I decided to convert to Christ again, being a pastor I decided to give my life to Christ again, why, because I discovered what Paul once confessed, the good that I do not want to do is what I do, and the evil that I do not want doing that is precisely what I do. Who will free me from this body of death.

And there Paul brought the good news, and that is that what is impossible for man is possible for God. And everyone who recognizes their weakness and everyone who recognizes what has been impossible to transform, convert to Christ, because what is impossible for you is possible for God, He can change you. I had never been brought napkins to the altar. This church has done things that no one else has done. That was the reason why I wrote that book, Lord that my children love you and in it I open the doors of my house and I confess everything good and bad, we confess it with the intention that those who are in the church hiding that everything is fine, know that there are many people including ministers of the altar, that we go through the same problems as you, that we go through the same frustrations as you, and that we have to fight with our carnal nature to enter into harmony with our spouses, and enter in harmony with our parents, and enter into harmony with our children, a harmony that only God can bring about.

So, I joined that campaign, wanting to change, being different, I was embarrassed, do you know why? Because every time I went to give my wife special treatment, I felt ridiculous. It's just that my dad's words were stuck in my brain, when he saw other men being affectionate and publicly honoring their wives and he heard my dad's words saying how ridiculous, those men are strawberry men. So although I did not agree with him, and it seemed to me in my judgment as an infant, as a child, right? That treatment seemed correct to me, but I was listening to those things so much that when I tried to be like that with my wife , I felt strawberry, pinky (laughs).

Then it was hard for me, it was difficult for me. I remember one time I was praying in my room, and I was praying and feeling God so tremendously, and the Holy Spirit told me stop praying, find your wife wherever she is in the house and give her a sweetie. And I looked at the clock and told him, Lord, it's nine in the morning, we're not working hours (laughs). I am very sincere with God, very honest. I said, Lord, these are not the hours for those things, because everything that is started must be finished. So I tried to continue praying but the Holy Spirit would not let me. Rey, to me, this does not sound theological, but it is more theological than we think, He told me, it is more important to me that you learn to love your wife than that you love me.

I know it doesn't sound very theological, but there is a word that tells me how can I say that I love God, and I am not capable of loving my neighbor. So, I went looking for my wife, and I found her in the kitchen, in front of the stove, so it wasn't a very romantic setting. So I thought, my God, it's just that, I can only imagine how he's going to react. I imagine that as soon as I do that, he's going to look at me and tell me what you want? Yes, because I had heard once, or rather several times, or rather, many times, I had heard the comment "you are only affectionate and special when you want something." So what happens, when I go in obedience to God, I said, but I know how he will react, I know what he is going to tell me. So, oh, I know. I'm like that by surprise, I grab her from behind and tell her Wicker, I love you, and I ran away.

So when I ran back to my room, I didn't feel like a strawberry, but I felt like a prick, like something, right? So, Lord, I don't feel comfortable because it doesn't flow to me, it doesn't come to me, and I can't be a hypocrite, Father. And the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart and told me never again to call hypocrisy what I have called obedience. So like it or not, do it, period, whether you like it or not, do it and period, the teacher orders it, it's over. Ahh, but when I got to the room and dropped to my knees again, rivers of living water began to flow through me. Rivers of living water of joy, joy, blessing, I said wow, how rich you feel, how beautiful is God's reward. The first step to make things better is a cappella, there are no violins or music, and you will feel that way, but as soon as you obey, God's reward comes.

These kinds of changes began to take place. I remember once when my wife and I crossed paths in the house and when I was next to her, she in one direction and I in the other, she grabbed my arm, and she pulled me towards her, and the first thing I thought was, see, my dad told me, that when you get very cuchi cuchi, and you get a lot of love and things, women jump on you (laughs ). But that's not true. That is not true. The women ride on whoever allows it. And we can be loving, merciful, gentle, delicate, sensitive, but firm men. Then she comes and she said, do you know something? No. I'm falling in love with you again (applause).

O glory. Women know how to reward, I can't tell you, but it was spectacular. And in the midst of that longing to want to change and to feed my wife and to begin to experience a married lifestyle that I didn't know existed, intense, pleasant, full of happiness and joy, with a lot of tolerance and patience, and all that kind of thing, because in the middle of that road, I got frustrated, frustrated but very frustrated. Maybe it hasn't happened to many men but it happened to me. Is my time up? Yes, my time is up, when he sits there it's because time is up (laughs). But if I haven't read the bible, when I read the bible then I'm going to start preaching. Where I was. Where?

Frustrated. Because I discovered that women, the more you love them, the more they want, more and more and more. And one who is barely trying to give them all the love they so badly need, when they start receiving it it's like their thirst to be loved increases, and they want more and more. My god, it's frustrating. One day I told God in a retreat that I did, I went into fasting and prayer. Because I have many defects but I have a couple of virtues, and one of my virtues is that when I enter into a crisis, when I don't understand something, when it happens to me that I feel like I am, I shut myself up with God and withdraw, I stop eating and get into that retreat with the bible, and as soon as I entered I said to God, please show me what you were thinking when you made the woman as you did.

Show me why there has to be a wisdom so hidden that only your Spirit can reveal it. And I did not know the great truth that I was saying, because the Spirit began to speak to me, open bible, and all the revelation or at least a part of the revelation that is in the scriptures began to come out of the word in an impressive way with regarding the woman, why he created her at the moment he created her, how he created the woman, what he put in her, in her nature, for what purpose, how much spiritual authority does the woman have, what is the cosmic war that is going on against her, and what is the role that we men have to play in the midst of that war, what will be the end of the man-woman relationship. An impressive thing, I knew that I had to write a book on the subject, and that is where The Woman The Seal of Creation appears.

And in all this process I discover beloved, that in order to live married life, living the gospel within our relationship, we need to a great extent a wisdom that does not come from this world, we need new mental structures to occupy our thinking. We need other foundations of truth, not fleeting but eternal, to be established in our minds. So that we are no longer slaves to our emotions, so that we are no longer slaves to our hurt feelings, and now we are people who walk according to the truth regardless of how I feel, because the word of God has the power to separate the soul of the spirit. In other words, it can help me make wise decisions even if my soul doesn't want to.

It separates one thing from the other to give us wisdom and makes us a different people, makes us a different people. I am going to dare to say this. One of the reasons the gay movement is where it is is because the world has lost faith in marriage. And you know why the world has lost faith in marriage, because the world looks to churches to see if the church has answers to the marriage crisis and the breakdown of families, and sees that within the church families divorce as they do. on the street, and since the family is no longer a unifying element, a place that sanctifies, a place that produces mature people, we are going to invent another family model. But it seems to me that if we take the word of God more seriously, and dare to live the word even if we die trying, divorces will disappear in the church.

And if they do exist, it would be so rare that it would cause the world, the government and social institutions to have to look inside the church and ask, what do you do to have such solid families, such happy, productive children, and see so many health as there is in you. And I am convinced, which is why my wife and I are sacrificing everything to go all over the world, announcing to the people that before Christ comes there is going to be a revival, but that temple is not going to explode in the temple This revival is going to start at home, in our home, in the true church that is our home, our house. But for that revival to happen, there have to be many believers willing to convert to Christ again and take full responsibility.

Christ took upon himself the sin of the whole world, and if someone here wants to be an agent of change, and an agent of revival for your home, stop looking for who is guilty, because the guilty one is probably not you. Christ was not guilty, but He nevertheless took all the blame, to model us, a gospel, which He intends for us to live in the strength and power of the Holy Spirit. If there are people here who will be the protagonists of this revival scenario, which will take place in recent times, they will be people, men, who, regardless of their wife's defects, today will be willing to repent of their bad attitudes, today they will be willing to go home and ask all the members of your family for forgiveness and tell them starting today, I want to model Christ in this house.

Women, who are going to have to believe that only God defends those who do not defend themselves, and they are going to have to believe that modeling Christ as Sarah did, whose daughters you all become, is unique to your families and your husbands are coming to Christ. He said it well when he announced to women that through your attitudes, through your behavior, it will be that your husband, unconverted, or carnal, will come to the feet of Christ. When I made this commitment, and when I converted to Christ again, I didn't fail again, I didn't screw up again? Gentlemen, I failed again. But you know that gentlemen, even after having this awareness, I myself could not forgive myself, in the sense, I could not tolerate myself, acting badly and continuing walking and saying, like nothing has happened here.

Now I have to apologize. How many times did I have to call my children, and with tears in my eyes to tell them, dad acted badly, I behaved wrongly, Christ is not like I just became. And I beg you daughter, I beg you son, please forgive me, I want to be a better husband, I want to be a better dad. I love Christ, and I want to model Christ, but I failed you again, forgive me. And I asked my children to please pray for me. And you know what it's like to be in front of your children and see how they put their little hands on my head, they put their little hands like they were scared, and then they pray to God and say: Daddy God, help daddy, he wants to be good, help him , bless him Lord. The time I heard that prayer my soul was moved, and every time I had to ask them for forgiveness that was like a greater force, I have in Christ, I have to achieve it.

You have no idea what it feels like as parents, to go to the TV station where my daughter preaches every day. To sit there and watch her when they put the microphone on her and when they light her up, and when they start counting, and that woman, that girl begins to open her mouth, to speak of the gospel, to speak of the word, with such passion, not They have no idea what it's like to have, how we feel to have a son who abandoned his professional career to dedicate himself to the gospel full time, and is a pastor and a powerful, wise preacher, and the day we get married, they have no idea how they stayed the words engraved in my heart, when they went to see their mother and they went to me and told me on their wedding day, daddy, I want to be like you, I want to fight like you, and if I fail, I want to learn to humble myself like you, and to ask God for help as you taught me to seek it. Daddy you are my hero.

So that the theologians are satisfied and so as not to hurt their sensibilities, I am going to read a biblical portion and with that I leave. It appears in Matthew 11 verse 28 and 29 which says, "Come to me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me that I am meek and humble of heart, and you will find rest." for your souls, for my yoke is easy and my burden is light." I want to pray for those who today are willing to take full responsibility for their families, people who are willing to believe that to deteriorate a marriage, to damage a family, it takes two or more, but to restore a marriage, and restore a family, one is enough.

If you are that person who is willing, who has the courage to say, I don't know how I'm going to do it but I trust that God will help me, I want to model Christ in my house, and to begin with I'm going to gather my family and I'm going to apologize. No one, no one, who isn't willing to reunite their family today, before they pass, so they don't have to turn. No one who is not willing to gather their family today, ask for forgiveness, and make a commitment, please do not come here. I am not interested in this altar being filled, the only thing that interests me is that whoever comes here knows that receiving prayer here is easy, anyone can do that. Now getting out of here, and doing what I'm supposed to do, that's not so easy. But if you are willing to do it, if you are willing to do it, come because I want to pray for you.

Heavenly Father, I bless every man, every woman, every young person who decides to humble himself before you today. Spirit of God, Spirit of God, cover it, Your word teaches us that the love of God covers a multitude of faults. Cover them Lord. May all men, my Lord, who are represented on this altar today, be invested with the anointing of truth, with the power of truth. That he will not let me walk in my own strength, that he will confront me when I do things with my own presumption. In the name of Jesus I invoke the spirit of meekness upon every man, and I invoke the spirit of humility upon all the women upon this altar. Father I declare a blessing on their mouths and I declare a blessing on their tongues Lord.

And I declare that their mouths will be sources of a single water, if they were mouths that had sweet and bitter waters at the same time, today You take away the vile and leave, Lord, what is pure, what is pleasing to You. I declare, Lord, that your mouths become instruments of healing, instruments of restoration, instruments of forgiveness, instruments of grace and mercy. Lord, when you reunite your family, when you reunite your family today, I pray, Lord, that You put the right words, put the right words. Give them a very humble heart to speak up, ask for forgiveness and take responsibility. Father in the name of Christ do not allow them to fall into the temptation of sharing the blame. Don't let them fall into that temptation. That they can assume all that responsibility. The spirits of dissent, the spirits of contention that managed to contaminate your house, and were able to sneak into your home in the name of Jesus I order you to leave your houses.

So that when you enter your homes today, there is a special light from God, there is a special freedom, a clearing of the atmosphere of that home. And I pray in the name of Jesus that You give them the spirit of wisdom to maintain the work that your spirit has done. This blessing I declare upon your lives in the name of the Father, in the name of the Son, and in the name of the Holy Spirit. Yes, amen. Hallelujah.

I have to inform you that unfortunately the first two titles of my books are out of print, but there are a few left from the last book I wrote that is about, pretty much the big content of the book is about character transformation. It means that those who recognize that they need help, and that they need follow-up for the transformation of their character, run that there are a few left so that you can acquire them. I bless you, you have managed to captivate our hearts, we love you, and we will never forget this visit to this beautiful city of Boston. God bless you.